hahah yeah xD

but i'm not sooo much at love with her, just a bit.
and when the broke up comes, i can move quikly to PUA stuff and seduce again

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yeah ok, thanks everybody for advice .

Yea i'm 17, i want to learn like a real PUA xD :p
I learn from my mistakes and move further :p

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after today party, how she touched me and kissed me and where i touched her (she is a bad girl )

I have no worry about that (ugly) friend of hers



So everything is cool at the moment :d

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That's true, if she's so young, try not to get to into her.

That aside - if she is talking about another guy all the time;

You want to firmly tell her what you won't accept. Don't tell her something upsets you unless you really have to - that's a last resort, it should be something that's very seriously wrong. Don't be afraid to say it if you need to, but save it till last.

So first just say you won't accept certain kinds of behaviour, set the rules. That's all she's testing you to do.

I read through all the posts, and you probably already got the point ...
But In my opinion, I think you're exaggerating the "bad boy" role ... thats being just not respectful and rude... a "bad boy" in my opinion is the one that is not afraid to break the rules, but he respects them, someone who doesn't cares what other people think of him, but he listens to them...
I think a "bad boy" is more of a rockstar, but respectful ... for example... if you've ever seen the movie "Rock Star" .. with Mark Wahlberg ... they are "bad boys" but not jerks...
But yeah, like guys already said... girls want to fuck the bad boy, but they won't settle with him. You can still be a bad boy in a relationship, by doing whatever you want, not taking importance of what people may think of you if you do X action... walking confidently...
But being respectful... opening doors, and that kind of stuff are little small details that girls notice, you can be this bad boy and open the car door for her, and she's in your palms.
Well... thats my opinion ... I think thats how I am ..
Normally, I speak out loud, and give out my opinion sometimes disagree openly with my girlfriend at class, sometimes Id be the only one defending a point, but I'll defend it... I don't care what people may think of me, but I do listen to them.. I tease everyone, if they insult me I know I can outsmart them, and win without throwing a punch ....
But, whenever we go somewhere... I open the doors for my girl, I hold my arm around her ! Without acting like a wuss... thats another main aspect, don't ever act like a needy wuss ... What is this?
Seeking approval from everyone ... asking if they like something from you...
Well... I almost made a speech here ...
Just tone it down, be respectful, she will notice ...
Oh and one thing about this guy ... he's not a threat, usually someone who writes a girl poetry and all that stuff will never get her, YOU'RE the alpha male! The next time she mentions him say something like "Nice! I should ask him some advice to treat with you!" And SMILE ... this will throw her off (I've tested it with my girl !)
good luck!!
And remember, be respectful, don't become a jerk!

Yea thank you very much for the 'Bad boy' explain

Now there is a nother problem lol xD:

her friend told her about a guy last year ( summer 2009) that my girlfriend met( a memory/flashbacks) .
First she didn't want to tell me because she taught i would be angry and she is very confused and like that about it but after i said it's ok she told me about it.

she said:
Yeah last year i liked sombody at that party and we huged and holding hands and almost kissed and like that stuff.
I: did you saw him after the party ( dating...)
She: Noo not much, because school is coming and like that
I: I understand how you feel in your situation, i understand it. This a typical human reaction. i hope you consider what you want. Like i always say: What used to be in the past, stays in the past and what happened now, is it now.
i would prefference more a fair relationship than a relationship based on a lie. I hope you remember our magical evenings, that is what i feel for you. i love you and i hope you make the right decision.

Than i let her think for a while and than i will see her anwser:)

did i solved this right?

I think she is stuck at the past and the future now. That she is seeing who is the best, me or the other boy. And i hope that she doens't often get that flashbacks back if we are together.

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omg that guy from that party last year, IS MY BEST FRIEND!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!



Ok one year ago she had feelings for him but my friend not for her and yesterday we went together to party and she saw her back and the flashbacks came back.




OMG MY BEST FRIEND!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


pffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffff

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I started to type a answer like this earlier and deleted my entry. I agree with this 100%, but I didn't get the vibe that he was that insecure (for a 17 yr old.) I had more the vibe that he's just wants to be 'perfect' in a PUA way.... so yeah I guess you could call that insecurities in his abilities as well.

So xfxxl, you are about 5-10 years before most people get into PUA. Don't worry so much about doing what is perfect and especialy don't worry about making mistakes. Don't necessarly look for justifications. Just do things and observe and build experience that way. It's good to read some material and ask some background info, but don't worry so much about results now. Go enjoy life you kid! :P

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yeah we solved it up.

thanks

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But still:

Like today my best friend told me that on her netlog :
' The hardest thing to do is watch the person you love , love sombody else' and 'Broken inside just because of you' and almost everyday it change.

watch the person you love= ME
Love sombody else= My best Friend

But i know it is my best friend she has a bit feelings for but still :s
And she also did weird to HER best friend today because her best friend is now with my best friend. ( they kissed each other the day before yesterday at party)

Can you have feelings for sombody but also 100 procent going for your relationship?

I know i don't have to think about it but really it's weird for me
I can kiss her, i can touch her ( down there and breast ....) i can hug her , i can talk very good with her , tonight we had a great night at movies and i also gave her a romantic flower and told her i love her and ..

And she loves me tooo and send me spicy/lovely text messenging to me

But She told yesterday she is a bit confused about the past and the present now and that she sometimes has flashbacks back or the feelings for my best friend.
But she ignore the feelings and she also hit her own body because i was a bit upset yesterday because she says that it was her fault to tell it and she didn't had to do it :s so what can i do :

1. Ignore the lines and just be happy what we have now and love each other
2. Tell everything to my best friend even i promosed nothing to tell
3. talk again with her but maybe DRAMa will come and maybe a fight


But i know my best friend will never go in a relationship with her ( also if we broken up) and my girlfriend knows it that he is not interested but still she has some feelings for him is she sees him i think.

Can you have feelings for sombody else but still go 100 procent for my relationship? We are now perfectly 2 weeks together.

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If 2 people are in a relationship, and one has feelings for someone else, that relationship is pointless. There will always be a 3rd person in mind.

Why would you want to be with a girl like that? You have to have standards for yourself man.

Any woman tries that with me, I let her know:

"If you're with me, then you're with me, if you want to go out on a date with another guy, go ahead, but I'm gone"

She can make her decision then and there. If she leaves, she leaves man. You're better off avoiding the drama. She'll respect you for having your own beliefs and standards. If she doesn't then she cant see quality.

"Every man has to have a code"

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This reminded me of something.
I was at school, my girlfriend by my side and a female friend infront of us. Then all of the sudden, our friend says, with a motion of her head as to "look there" , she says "Look !" and my girlfriend turns back and theres a guy coming, so I got mad.
Then later that day we were at the movies and my girlfriend asked me why I got mad, and I told her to step in my shoes, how would she feel. She agreed it was bad, and that she wouldn't do it again.
Then she told me a speech like
"I just love you, and I just want to be with you and no one else, I think I've shown you that I love you and just you"
You need to step up and don't let her throw drama over you. If she's with you she's 100% if not... goodbye!

sounds that you might be overcompensating a bit too much... what if it works? what are your results to be? lets say you stay with her for a while are you eventually gonna drop the mask or struggle to always keep up this badboy persona? what if you come to find out that the way she fell for you is that badboy persona so that means you will have to keep it up to keep her?

If she's talking about going on dates with other guys, Dump her.

And next time you see a girl engaging this kind of behavior, stop giving her attention until she stops. Your giving her "bad" attention, but your giving her attention none the less. You need to use a reward system where you give her attention / show her love and affection when she does things that you like.

If she wants to talk to other guys, you should talk to other girls. Girls who are twice as hot as her. Don't let girls try and tease you with their semantics like this. They should be the ones qualifying themselves to you. Her life would be a boring shythole without you. Let her have this AFC whose writing her poems, and you can move on to girls who are much better than her.

And don't let this kind of stuff bug you. It's irrelevant which guy she's talking to, You are an Alpha and she's talking to some Viagra Junkie who writes her depressing poems and tells her he wants to kiss her because his testicles feel small without her. Never let this kind of stuff phase you, but make sure she knows that you won't put up with it

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