Alright Don... take a deep breath and now go to the mirror and repeat after me...
"I am not an AFC, so why am I acting like one?"
Bro remember this rule that my friend who is a natural PUA taught me. He said that if you meet a girl and hangout/talk a lot, and don't do anything physical then you will eventually make her loose interest in you or get friend-zoned. From your post, it looks like you didn't do any kino, or physical escalation when you met her after 4 years. She just broke up, so she might just be looking for ppl to talk to just to make her feel special or something. Girls do that a lot. Any girl no matter how HB1 she is will have some guy buying her drinks or showing affection and attention if she just shows him a little interest.
Cut down on your talk time. Initially talk to just set up dates and that's it. If you have all the conversations over the phone or text then when you actually meet her, what are you going to talk about the weather? I'm not saying don't text her back if she texts you... just text her after a while. Somewhere on this thread is how long you should wait before texting back... BS!!! just use your common sense and don't carry a conversation via text.
Hope this helps...and next time you see her... kino escalate! Hope this helps Bro... and remember... have fun while you're at it... that's the whole point of dating and socializing...right?
