Hey guys,

Just need a little advice for a friend of mine. She has been going out with a PUA for about a year and they are very into each other. However, lately, he seems to be too busy to see her and hasn't even mentioned catching up. He has called her every day still like usual and he says things like "Everyone keeps asking where you are (like SPAM, their mutual friends, etc)" and "my room feels a little empty - I think something is missing", "do you still remember what I look like - we havent seen each other in a while..." stuff like that, YET he will not actually ask her to meet up. It's so weird!

She has asked him a couple of times if he wants to do something her but he always declines and says he is too busy. They now havent seen each other for 2 weeks when prior to this they used to pretty much live together.

She has decided to freeze him out a little and although she does answer his phone calls (sometimes), she will keep it brief and tell him he should get back to doing whatever he was doing or she says she is busy.

Is she doing the right thing? What is his deal? She really loves this guy and doesn't understand what the issue is - it's not like they have had a big fight or anything. But this is really getting her down and she is dealing with other emotional stress at the moment too (which before all this went down, he was totally there for her). Any ideas????

This all depends... Usually, the right thing to do is to freeze out. Freeze out the GIRL in this situation.

However, when the girl freezes out the guy - it may or may not work, depending on the level of ego/pride that the guy has.

I would be careful in this case about the freeze out because if he has too much pride (I've witnessed these cases with my own eyes) - he will let everything drop.

I suggest your friend should try to talk to him first. Confront him about this, until it gets worse.

If however, he still acts "off" and busy all the time.... then try the freeze out properly.

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Agree with what's been said. Girl should confront guy. If he is still off, definitey ease back and freeze out.

But he's been doing that, and the girl doesn't WANT that.

The guy has to drop a call, and initiate at least ONE meetup. Go with the moment, go with HER moments.

...go with her POSITIVE moments, question her on her "WHAT?!" moments, and punish her on her NEGATIVE moments.
You don't know that. You only know YOU.

Some guys don't care if a girl does a freeze out, because they may have 3 other girls lined up. MOST guys will care, because they invest emotion, like most nice, well meaning guys do. I am one of them.

The easiest gauge of action is the moment. Size up the situation, and evaluate risk management; is she worth the investment?

If yes, proceed
If no, DON'T proceed.
Wrong. It's not pride; he's scared. He doesn't want to blow it.

Remember, we're talking about a PUA boyfriend. HE knows what WE know; he's not a typical AMOG or natural. He's freezing out the girl because he THINKS (incorrectly) that doing that will make her miss him. She DOES miss him; she WANTS to spend time with him. He's THINKING; that's why he's fucking up.
No, she doesn't need to confront.

Girls, whether they like it or not, are more emotional than guys. This is NOT a weakness, it's the reason guys should love girls; whatever a guy gives a girl, she multiplies by 4. Give her cock, she gives you wild pussy. Give her a home, she gives you a house. Give her sperm, she gives you a healthy baby.

Give her "Freeze Outs", she'll give you complete ignornace. She doesn't hate you; she's responding in kind, but her emotional pull is stronger. It just is.
NO FREEZE OUTS!
The guy is scared to pull the trigger. He fears his own success. He's not living in the moment.

He needs to pull the trigger. He needs to risk yes or no. He needs to do it at the right moment, and only he can find the right moment IF he sticks to his present moment, which might not happen.

The only thing we can advise is:

Girlfriend of PUA: Tell your friend to have FAITH in him. He may come around. He may not, but regardless of outcome, if she shows FAITH, and practices it, she WILL become a better woman, and, if she doesn't eventually end up with Mr. Scared to pull the trigger, she will be better prepared for a more worthy guy.
The girl will not confront the guy; it would be too much for her.

He must pull the trigger. You miss 100% of the shots you don't take.

Fear of rejection...it's real. I now see it.
Fear of rejection is the key cause of guys not having sex, and potential love relationships, with girls.

All one has to do is pull the trigger, and not care if it misses or succeeds.

Faith is the key. From other's testimonies, oftentimes (About 85-90% of the time), when a guy pulls the trigger, he hits his target 100% of the time.

It's like Anchorman, when Paul Rudd's character (Brian Fantana), tries on "SEX PANTHER...by Odion!", and says "60% of the time, it works EVERY TIME. "

Change "60%" to "85%", and it's true; one must simply BELIEVE.

Thanks for all the responses guys.
I am talking about a friend of mine and her boyfriend of 1 year.

Rune, thanks for your extensive reply on this matter.
You have hit the nail on the head here!!

Thanks to all of you - I will show my friend these responses and see what she decides.