Ok, I'm having a problem for a long time really. I just read another thread about 'buyer's remorse theory, and think that could be a big part of my problem. I'll try to explain my situation as briefly as possible and would be great to get some responses on it.

I can't describe my situation without sounding arrogant, so just bare with me. I'm a pretty good looking guy, which helps me a lot meeting girls. I'm 21 and at university, I find it fairly easy to go over to a girl, get her interested and walk away with a number or k-close depending on the environment i.e. library or nightclub. My major problem is getting the actual date arranged with the girl, I'll give 2 recent examples.

1) I just finished my exams, but when I was in the 'Silent room' at the library I saw a cute girl I was interested in, and we are in some massive room with exam conditions, so literally no talking is allowed. So I notice we check each other out a couple times, so I write a note saying " Best way to get your number, a)Guess b) Steal or C) write a clever note...txt reply to...."

She loved this and responded straight away with how cheeky I was but she liked how I did it, we text a little after it and she suggested we meet for coffee the next day, then when the day came I text her saying was she about for this drink, and she said she was busy but we should have one next time we see each other at the library etc....a few days later I text saying we should meet up for a drink so night instead but with some flaky texting it went nowhere. Not sure what went wrong, she was so keen.


2) I bump into a girl at a nightclub who I think is the girl mentioned above, I play it smart and find its not her, but turns out we just saw each other at the library too. We end up chatting for maybe an hour and dancing, everything is going great, we trade numbers and right before she leaves she says she really likes me, i say I'll give her a call sometime.

So a couple days later we text, i ask her for a drink she says shes busy, then a couple days go she starts instant messaging me, we chat for abit I ask if shes free the following night to meet up, she says shes busy with her mates birthday, but doesn't offer to reschedule or anything. Which could be a legit reason.

Tbh I'll be back in the library next week and could easily bump into either of these two girls and suggest a coffee break or whatever, maybe it'll work out, I don't know, but there is a definite trend going on here. I usually get a fair few numbers on a night out, and we text a little, sometimes we do meet up or whatever, but a lot of the time they just flake. Just to note I usually do well on dates, and once I get to that stage I'm good to go, just the gap between getting the initial interest and converting it into an actual meet up is my Achilles heel SPAM.

So any advice on my problem in general or on either of these 2 examples would be appreciated, thanks for reading.


~Phate

The first girl is busy.

The second girl seems not interested.

Let me explain university girls to you since I am a master of them compaired to most men.

University girls who study in a library are busy. They are sitting in a boring as white walled room studying because they are disipline. They know what is best for them and your cock inside there vagina is the farthest thing from there success and they know it. Now if you want to have a quick fuck, then you go to a club and pick up on the party girls who don't study.

Now if you want to hang out with these girls you have to be extremely patient. When they hang out with friends they will invite you. You can also invite them to hang out with your friends. But you need to spend a lot of time with them and make them comfortable.

Good Luck

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Walk Hard

mayb u should review how u r going about getting them to meet u as well. i have found that calling a girl is seen as more mature than just texting her and its also harder for her to flake. also it seems u didnt actually talk to the first girl - mayb make some crack about catching up with her in daylight just in case she is trying to steal your kidneys for sale on the black market. but yeah adding calls and texting makes you seem more confident and spontaneous - it couldnt hurt to try to mix it up a bit

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confucious says: man who goes to bed with each bum, wakes up with smelly finger - be true to yourself consciously and save your unconscious the trouble

They both sounded interested. You think they were interested, they were probably interested. I think you were spot on moving in immediately with the first girl, I think you blew it waiting a couple days for the second. Maybe the first girl just remembered she had a boyfriend. It sounds like you did fine. Coffee is a good way to get to know someone. It's stupid to think girls who study aren't interested in sex. People who study the hardest love to break up their sessions with some screwing.