Okay, I debated with myself whether to make this thread...going for a 'quick fix' is not usually the best thing, but sometimes, it can be your only option.
I'm not a spammer, I'm someone who has become interested in PUA relatively recently - since I banished my social anxiety and it became a fun game rather than something that turned me into a nervous wreck.
My fix came when I got some advice from an acquaintance regarding my 'deer in headlights' syndrome when it came to giving presentations at college. It was getting debilitating; before a presentation I would get sweaty, nervous tremors, increased heart rate and general feeling of dread in my stomach...similar symptoms persisted when I would try to pick up a girl - never a good look, as I'm sure you all know.
So on the advice, I did some reading on medications known as
Beta Blockers and made an appointment with my gp. Beta blockers essentially take away the physical side-effects of social anxiety - that's it. They will not take away any negative inner voices or hang-ups..it's purely acting on your body's 'fight or flight' responses which are hard-wired into our brains from pre-historic times when we were roaming the wild plains, trying to avoid being mauled by lions. This response is not so helpful in our relativey safe and secure modern lifestyle.
Well, my experience on BB's has been profound. Just knowing these little red pills are on hand makes me feel like an angry gorilla has my back. No more racing heart, tremors etc. My mind is completely free to concentrate on the task at hand - rather than worrying if I look like a nervous, ineffectual dick.
Some quick notes on Beta Blockers for social anxiety:
- They are NOT benzos (Valium, Xanax etc)
- You do not take them regularly, you only take before you have to 'perform' - usually between 30 mins and 1.5 hours beforehand.
- Not addictive.
Examples of uses of beta blockers?
- Musicians (stage fright)
- Drug traffickers (keeping calm and cool when passing checkpoints etc)
- Surgeons (keeps their hands steady)
- Pick Up Artists
There might be issues with people who have heart conditions and or asthma. Discuss everything with your gp first.
...I'd be surprised if I am the first person to bring up BB's and some people are going to advise against this, I'm sure. But sometimes a psychological disorder can get to the stage where it manifests in physiological symptoms...it is truly debilitating. In an ideal world, visualization techniques etc would work every time, but sometimes....you might as well just pop a pill.
Hope this little write-up helps someone who may be in the same boat that I was. I'll stress again, talk to your gp before going down this path.
Note: If you are uncomfortable telling your doctor you want BB's for picking up, just tell them you have presentations to give at work/school or something equally benign.
Any questions welcomed. Start your own research by going to Wiki and search for 'beta blockers', the type you are after is
propranolol - a non-selective beta blocker. Specific brand names are: Deralin and Inderal.