Hey I am rather new to PUA as well as the forum, not sure if this is the right place, but I just wanna ask a quick question on your thoughts on an event that happened recently:

Some background info before I get into the situation:

This happened about 2 days ago.

We're in college; I work at Subway; she was apparently a customer.

Story:

I was on AIM (AOL Instant Messenger), when a girl said hi to me. I greeted her back and asked her politely who she was and how she found me. She said that she had a brief conversation with me when I was ringing her up to the cashier machine, thought I was cute, asked my lead for my name, and found my AIM through my Facebook.

So we talked and she had a lot of features that I liked, so I asked her if she was interested in visiting me at work again (buying a sandwich from Subway), mainly because she was on her phone and was not able to link me to her picture. She said she has a lab that day, but will text me when she gets out. I gave her my number.

Then she would ask me some questions regarding my past relationship (how many I have had and what was the most extreme thing I've done with my ex). I tried to make my answers as vague as possible, as I did not want to "lose" her. After a bit, she said she has to go. I said "okay I will see you tomorrow? Text me then come by." She responded with an enthusiastic "yes." Then I asked her for her number (no bad intention here, I was just wondering so I would remind her), she responded with a "you'll get it when you see it smiley face`"

And on the day that she was supposed to text me then visit me, she didn't. I gave her 20 minutes, but no text and no show. She has not been on AIM ever since.

I do recall being quite excited on AIM and was pretty hyped that I met someone who's as interesting as her.

Anyways, what are your guys' theories on why she flaked?
Could it be because I had an excited tone to my voice?


(Sorry for the long story)


Thanks ^__^

A lot of PUAs and guys in general don't understand the difference between decision making in males and females. Us males act through our logical circuit whilst females think through their hardwired emotional circuit. This is the presumable reason to why we males don't understand why girls flake out on us when we have considered everything "went well". I'll try and explain as clearly as possible.

There's this theory called buyers remorse that's explained in the Venusian Art Handbook by Mystery. As I said before, females think through their emotional circuit and through different mindsets their emotions will differ as well.

For example, lets say Joe picked up this stunning HB9 at a club last night, he done his routine and it worked in the end of the day they went to another club and made out the whole night. They exchanged numbers and parted. She said they would meet up again. Then, a day goes by and she doesn't call so the next day he does and she doesn't answer his calls. He leaves a few messages yet she doesn't reply. Joe is wondering what the fuck went wrong because everything was so right at the time.

Those last 4 words explain what went wrong, just because it was "right at the time" doesn't mean that the next day her emotional circuit will not change and tell her "look, he was a really nice guy but we only made out all night.. there was no conversation.. nothing to go back upon.. now that he's calling me I think he's just wanting me for sex.. because it wouldn't be for anything else." Do you see what I mean?

Yes, ok she seemed interested on AIM, but I think by answering her questions about previous relationships lowered your value in a sense. I personally would've said something along the lines "you didn't ask me out.. to talk to me.. about my previous relationships right? If so, I'm leaving *smile*" and took the conversation to another topic. I think her emotional circuit changed there and regretted meeting up.

If I could give an effective solution, freeze out. If you freeze out and don't text, call, whatever it will cause her a little pressure and wondering what she's missing. Show her your value. If she calls, she lost to the freeze out and continue from there.

Good luck.
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Wait, wait, wait. You wanted this girl to visit you at work because you weren't able to see her picture? You don't know what this girl even looks like? This is kind of a problem. This girl borderline stalked you. But anyway, maybe she didn't show because she's really insecure about the way she looks... for a reason.