There is SO much wrong with my relationship its unbelievable.

Im at month 2, but Iv known her for 8 months, and things are generally good, but Im not producing the effect I wanna produce.

We just had a BIG fight and I need you guys advice.

Last night we were out with friends and things were going great. I was the center of attention, and her best friend (who's boyfriend was sitting right next to her) was giving me IOIs. Anyway, things were going well and all of a sudden she started being just a plain bitch.

They started talking about cars, and the boyfriend was talking to me and my girlfriend cuts in "Oh no, he doesnt like cars (with a smirk), he doesnt even care about hockey" then turns to me "Im beginning to think your gay" IN FRONT OF EVERYONE.

Then on the way home I make a sarcastic remark, they all laugh but her, no , she says "Hes acting all tough now but at home... " * imitates whip*

We get to her place and Im in a bad mood so she gets annoyed and makes these stupid fucking comments. So i just snap. I get my shit and walk out of her house. Today she came over and we fought some more and it all came out from her.

Apparently Im not Alpha enough. Well in her words "I always do as she says, Im spineless (because I ignore her remarks) she feels like Im below her" you get the picture.

Also, I wanna fuck her, but wev only tried 3 times and I couldnt get hard or couldnt keep it hard the whole way. But I still wanna try, shes never in the fkn mood every time i wanna escalate, and for some reason she thinks I dont like sex!

God, when I was single I was super alpha, always in control, she used to be on her knees chasing me, 8 months later look where Im at.

Now we argue for stupid shit. if she wants something, say a massage for example, shel keep nagging and nagging. If she doesnt get it her way, shel just pout and act like a kid basically, and if I give in she says Im spineless. WTF?

Also, shes a tough girl, and Iuno why but Im not really able to be dominant with her! Like as much as I hate to admit it, in the end shes the one that calls the shots. Ugh. how did I ever let myself get into a position like this? -.-

Dont get me wrong, we both love each other, shes a very moody girl but when shes in a good mood, shes the cutest thing and its obvious she adores me. I tried something new last week, I started acting like shes an HB that I just met and had to game all over again. I was giving her attitude, teasing, neging, making her wait before I answered txts, making her call me two or three times before Id answer... and she was LOVING it.

My questions is.. how the hell do I go back to what I was?? how do I respond to her remarks? How do i act more alpha (Im short and not muscular and she always remarks how she doesnt feel safe with me)?? How do I learn to say no? How can I be more dominant? Its like I lost it and its honestly driving me nuts. If I dont feel like Im enough of a man, how can I make her feel more like a woman?

Thanks in advance guys.
Sincerely
The discouraged Mack

You couldn't get it up? Bummer. Honestly, though, I've been there. Maybe you're putting too much pressure on yourself to get it up or you aren't attracked to her.

Things can't go back. You are where you are. Poke back at her. When she makes the "he's only tough now" comments, respond back with "you're one to talk" or "you won't be getting any in bed if you keep this up."

First of all the fact that she is saying those things in front of other people or in general shows that she has no respect for you...You want to be alpha? you need to make it clear that it wont happen again and that you wont hesitate to leave her if it does...she might call your bluff and if she does than walk. I love my gf to death! I live with her but I have made it clear to her that as much as I love her if she get out of line and treats me poorly I will walk! no questions ask...I will leave her if I feel she treats me like shit...so she clearly treats me with respect. You teach people how to treat you remember that.

Also try to never raise your voice! be calm and cool...when you dont agree with somthing then voice you opintion but be calm and stern! if she freaks out sit her down and stay calm! You want to be alpha they you need to control your emotions and also learn how to control a womens!

Women and men do not think alike at all! what makes sens to you makes no sens to her and this is because women think with a diffrent part of the brain than a man...We think with the logical part of the brain and women with the artistic emotional side...what does this mean? It means in order to deal with a women you need to understand her emotions and how to control them...and women need to be logic and simple when dealing with men.

I would tell her that perhaps the two of you should get some space from each other for a little while and go on a bit of a break...this will shock her trust me! it will make her feel a loss and really give her time to miss you! you then need to take a week to think and see if you want to be with her or not and also get back to your alpha roots! go to the gym, go out and talk to women ect ect...read up on how to be alpha in a relationship or just alpha in general. Then you contact her and tell her either you want to get back togeather with her or you dont.

Now if you do decide to get back with her you need to make it clear to her that it is on your term...dont word it like that but let her know that you do not want to fight, it is not ok for her to call you names in front of people or in general ect ect ect...you make up your own rules and if she cant follow them than you dont want tyo have a relationship. You know what this is called? being the alpha male.

Also and this is key! when she does fallow the rules you need to award her! treat her like gold, bring her flowers, take her out for dinner, make her feel good! she did what you wanted so you should reward her! and if she treats you like shit then you start to pull away let her know its not ok and spend less time with her. A little push pill goes a long way!

Good luck!

You guys have been so helpful. I must say I expected people to call me weak or something, or tell me to break up.

Here are the most recent developments, followed by my plan to man up.

On the night of the fight, after leaving my house, she txted me saying "good night baby, I loveee you! " Clearly showing that shes not ready to end this.

I decided to let her miss me more from now on and start flirting with her, like if she was a new HB I just met. Way I see it, if I can seduce her once, I can do it again.

So she called me last night and I didnt answer. No explanation or anything. I called her today and she was kinda giving me attitude and I was flirting with her. It went good to be honest, got her to laugh a few times and I teased her which was good. I then teased her by telling her shes going to miss me while at the gym and that she could call me when shes ready to admit it. She said she doubts itl happen but nothing is impossible. Now Im waiting to see if shel call. Itd be a huge IOI if she does.

Im going to start speaking my mind much more, and not take her shit. No fights, but Im ready to walk. Also, Im going to sarge again to boost my confidance. Im going to let her miss me and game her as if I just met her. Pretty sure itd work. Wev hit our rough patches before and Im sure this one wont be the last.

Wish me luck mates!

PS: Iv run out of little games to play and I enjoy them cuz they get her in a playful mood. Can anyone find me some? Iv run the cube, Iv done the strawberry fields, 5 lies game, and a few more. I remember seeing a list of such games some time ago but cant seem to find it. Any help would be great.

Thanks alot guys!

You don't need this, man. Stop hanging on to scraps and get that super alpha back