Are there any IOIs here? Or, am I just looking too much into it? Reason I ask because in the past girls who I taught displayed IOIs, turned out to be just playing around. I didn't like that because they were making themselves feel good at my expense.

A target I want to practice on is a girl on my soccer team. I guess she's an H6 or 7? I don't know. At this point An H5-7 can look like a H8-10 to me.

She's playfully rooted me mvp on a couple of occasions. Once, she rooted another guy teammate mvp in front of me. After he left, she said he's not really the mvp, you're the mvp or something along those lines. In response, I said "Oh, so that's how it is?! You boost up their ego, then talk bad about them after they leave? I'm not sure I believe you anymore."

At a post game outing, she asked me in the front of the group, of two women in a magazine who would I do, I said both. She was text messaging a lot also, somebody asked what are you doing? I guess she was texting her online potential dates. At one point, she announced she was dating five guys. Whether she is or isn't, I don't know, I was just thinking to myself, who the hell cares. Why would anybody even want to announce that if they are dating. Wouldn't you want to keep it secret so you can land more dates?

She also put me on the spot at the end when the bill came. She interrogated me in front of the group, what did you eat? drink? how much did you I put in? She tried to defend herself by saying in case money needed to be given back. In response, I said it didn't sound like it.

I approached her once on the sideline, asked her why she moved here, who's her friend, how they know each other, etc. She was at my side as we talked while I was facing the field. I guess I didn't want to indicate too much interest.

Well, here's the deal now, I'm unable to approach and talk to her on the sideline. In fact I sort of tend to avoid her ... watching the game, wandering the sideline, talking to other teammates, and having my back to her--because I would be closer to the side line and she would be further away. I don't even want to turn around and say hi or anything. If it was any other girl on the team I would have no problem socializing with them on the sideline. With her, I do the occasional "good job", high five, small talk, etc. but that's it.

Anbody? Any advice, comments, feedback would be greatly appreciated.

Sorry it's a long post but I don't know how else to tell it.

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After reading this it seems to me you are in the dreaded "Lets just be friends zone". And i think her tellin you that she is dating with 5 guys at once is a bluff. If she says that she more than likely thinks of you as a friend she can say that to and also she wants to see what youll say like your her possible pick-me-up. Neg the shit out of her if you ever talk to her again.

Way more fish in the sea and especially sane ones

hope my .02 helps


Tommy "Gunz"

Finally a reply! Thanks for your 2 cents. She was actually responding to her friend, in front of the group, somewhat blurted, but not necessarily directed at me. I think it's a bluff too and in some ways trying to DHV herself ... "Hey look at me. I'm dating five guys!".

Yeah any opportunity I'll definitely play around. I just wanna to practice, and she is an opportunity for that, I'm just having a problem with approach anxiety with her. You could've asked me a month ago, if I had approach anxiety with her and I'd said no, cause I hadn't noticed her yet.

Whenever I know the girls are taken, unattainable (HB10, but I know them somehow), I'm not attracted to them, or I haven't noticed them yet, that's when I don't have approach anxiety, retarded I know.

I'll go read up on approach anxiety. Next time I guess I'll just fck it and go up and talk to her. Let me know if anybody have tips that works for them. Thanks!