I picked up a girl the other night that was friends with another girl I'm friends with. I basically had it locked up all night but the girl I know did put in a good word for me on their way back to my house after the bar and told me I better not just use her for sex.... well guess what, I did. Now this girl has kids and is going through a divorce and is 3 yrs older than I am. After I dropped her off at her house, she came back over later that day and I hit it again... I knew she was getting attached with the look in her eyes when I kissed her and the fact that after I hit it, I laid down and was half passed out for 5 mins, opened my eyes and looked over and she's laying there just staring at me. Now she's texting me and calling daily wanting to hang out and I really like the girl, she's really nice but I just can't date a girl with multiple kids and getting divorced and all that shit. I'm single, no kids and just getting into the PUA game so I'm not gonna get hooked up unless the girl's perfect. Should I tell her that I just don't want to be in a relationship and like being single or that she just has too much on her plate for me??? I basically wanna let this girl down easy b/c she is really sweet... I feel like if I tell her I just wanna be single and not in a relationship she'll think I just used her for sex, which technically I did. If I tell her that its her and everything she brings to the table (i.e. kids, ex-husband) that she's gonna feel like she completely fucked up her life and be depressed... Telling her its me makes me an asshole, telling her its her will prolly bring her down and hurt more... advice? suggestions? how do you all deal with clingers??

Say you're gay!

Seriouly though, I wish I had your problem, clingers to boost my own ego.

Bruce is right bro I think you're gay too bro, like seriously if you want a girl to go away tell her straight "I'm not interested in you, leave me alone!"
It isn't hard man.

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Ok, you want to preserve her feelings which is admirable and mature. You have to face facts. She's moving way too fast for you, and has unrealistic expectations.

Accept that anything you say is going to hurt her somehow. But keep in mind that the quicker you act, the lesser it will be.

Calmly explain that:
"I can't deal with your whole situation right now. You have too much going on in your life outside of what we HAD. I enjoyed being with you, but honestly I can't deal with all this right now. I'm not going to see you anymore."

Cruel, Yes.
Honest, Yes.
Will she cry, Maybe.
Will you be done with her, Yes.
Will she hate you, Maybe.

Consider this a test of your inner-game, don't turn away, accept it. You don't want what she has and don't be a prick and stop answering phone calls. Now's the time to prove your integrity/self-worth to yourself. Even if that means hurting someone momentarily.

you guys are right, I suppose there's no easy way to do it besides the cold hard truth and I guess its one thing I'll have to do if I hope to live this type of lifestyle... better to be dealing with girls because you banged em right rather than not at all!!!

Actually, perhaps you take her out one night and use her as a pivot to lock in on another target. Then take the new target and bounce the venue leaving your clinger behind. Unless she is socially unhinged, she should get the hint.

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Excuse me, is your refrigerator running?

Because if it is, it probably runs like you - very homosexually.

That's pathetic.

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Well u messed up when u had sex and continually kept having sex
Be straight up with her tell her ur not looking for a relationship next time u see here don't wait. Don't get me wrong she'll probably hate u now
for so be prepared to give up sex with this women and any future contact too.

The longer u stick around the harder it'll be to let go

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yea no doubt, I was stupid last night and sent her a text around midnight drunk lookin for a booty call, today she calls me and is all wanting to hang out and tells me to call her whenever I want and she always has time to talk.... DAMN'T, I think I was in the free and clear and my drunk ass gave her the attention to draw her back... oh well, back to blowin her off...

yah, no way around it.

You have to tell it to her straight, no way around that one.

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In my own experience..... just walk away. It seems to be the best way to keep women from going crazy mad or just crazy. They may call for a week or so but they will eventually stop if you don't answer, since women need closure... men don't.

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If not in him... On him... cheers!

omg, i feel like this with my current girlfriend.

in high school it's impossible, but out in the real world, just say "i'm sorry, but now i have recently discovered i am gay," she will leave you alone.