I was wondering how do you respond if a girl texts you to say she can't make the arrangement at the last second. I had literally just picked up my phone and was turning to walk out the door when it beeped in my hand. It was a text message saying she couldn't go out. I'm giving her the benefit of the doubt and saying that something legitimate came up but there is always the possibility she just didn't want to see me. I went with a non-needy response "That's fine, some other time then" but I think that might have also sent the message that my time isn't valuable. I was wondering if there are any better responses, possibly something flirtatious or C&F but without portraying that I'm annoyed or that it's okay to flake.


Thanks,
Garrick

Every girl that has flaked on the first date never resulted in a bang. Delete her # and move on.

It wasn't the first date. In fact it was her that chose the day after I stopped pursuing, which is why I think there is a legitimate reason.

I would do the same thing move on. You always have to say to yourself her lost. There is more girls out there. Stuff happens, but I wouldn't keep harping on the fact that she canceled. If you see her on the streets just say Oh hey whats up. Rejection shouldn't mean anything to you, things are only a big deal if you make it a big deal. If she was interested she wouldn't had cancel, maybe she will call you to explain, it doesn't and shouldn't matter, keep pushing on.

What Jay-Z would say On to The Next One...!

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Not Every girl is going to be instantly attracted to you it is what you do that makes them attracted to you.

I have had this happen to me a several times so I know where you are coming from.

I did start deleting the phone numbers out of my phone and then later the flake-chicks would start texting/calling me again and I would have to ask who it was...awkward to say the least, I think it killed the opportunity. One case even happened when I was at this club and this one flake-chick that I went on a couple of dates with saw me and texted me if I was also there. The only thing that saved me in that situation is that I also saw a glimpse of her there and 'guessed' her name correctly... We ended up hooking up later that evening.

Do keep a phone number bank if you decide you need to clean up the clutter in your phone just in case. As for me, with girls that I thought was a lost opportunity, I would just rename them in my cell phone with a 'z' in front of their name so they show up in the bottom of my cell phone's contact list. Whenever they call I can respond to them by their name...and that my friend adds value to you when a girl hears you say her name when you pick up the phone.

Don't take it personally if they flake you. After all you don't know what is going on in their own personal life. Keep your cool and do see other woman. Some of them will eventually come around...trust me on this one.

Best,

J-Dub

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You need to be a good player if your gonna be successful at the game.

I agree with J-Dub in the sense that you shouldn't take this personally. It doesn't necessarily mean that she's not interested.

I've flaked on many girls before that I really liked. If I'm not in the mood for a date, I just won't do it. (I don't do this intentionally to DHV or w/e. Life's just too short to go out and do things that you're not in the mood for, IMO). I'd contact them a few days later and set something else up.

I wouldn't advise messaging her for a few days. If she doesn't message you in that time, you could still re-establish contact. If she doesn't respond or flakes AGAIN, then you move on.

I have a rule I wait a week if she doesn't attempt to reschedule she wasn't that interested... after that on to the next one delete her name... if she text me after then I don't respond, because she lost her chance... its just like a girl would do if u flaked and didn't reschedule they would delete and say hey he missed out and never talk to you again... so that applies to me too... have never regarded doing it...

I suggest you at least give the girl a second shot; give her the benefit of the doubt, something might really have come up. Don't chase her for another date, but don't refuse if she chases you.

Did she ask to reschedule? A girl who is really into you will usually say: I'm sorry I can't go today, BUT I could see you on Friday instead? If she didn't offer to reschedule, it's probably a brush-off.

No I don't agree. Flakes happen to every PUA, but you should never forget that she is just A girl and she lost the great oppurtunity to get to know you better...
If you want to response to her shitty text, you should insult her. I learned this from Ross Jeffries, who told me to show the girl that her behaviour is simply not acceptable. Never use insulting wordss (you're better than that), but simply explain to her, that because of her late texting, you lost the possibility to reschedule with other people. That way you show her your time is valuable.

If you're not ready to do this hard line stuff, so don't answer her text at all.
Hope I could help

I had the same thing happen and responded by saying "are you always this difficult?"
Which she replied, "yes!!!"

We ended up going out that night.