Hey i've read most of the pua stuff a couple times about having conversation and what not and i think i can do pretty good but appearantly not. I get rejected like almost all the time. I do know if it's me or my game. I'm in highschool for one and it seems i'm always rejected to the point where i stop trying. Either a girl has a boyfriend or she has shows no interest in me or will just to avoid me later. Like I would go try to do something with a girl then get rejected then a guy comes up and does the same thing and gets her. It's just getting told off, having girls i wanted to talk to go to my best friends instead, or just getting plain rejected have all messed up my confidence and inner game. Which makes things worst.

I know how they say get rejected by like 100 girls then you'll be done but it's different for a girl that you actually are attracted to just to see her become a gf of some guy just after you. Is there anyway to get over this plz?

Hello Max .

I couldn't say for certain the exact challenges you face when trying to pickup girls because you are probably not aware of them yourself; in any case, I'd have to see you in person.

However, many things are clear and if you change these you will be well on your way to hooking up with your ideal type of women.

The main thing you need to sort, is nothing.

That is, the art of doing "nothing".

Nothing comprises of:

-Body language
-Inner game.

Practice your body language in the mirror. There is too much to go through here, and you may know some of it already, but there are loads of good websites these days talking about how to conduct your body. Chances are when you approach a girl you do not expect success, and this WILL show through your body language, and girls WILL detect this. Game over.

For your inner game, of course it's the old chicken and egg problem - in order to get inner game, you might feel the need to have some success on your belt, but in order to get success you need inner game! What do you do? The trick is to start from the best position you can. Sit down with yourself, forget pickup, and analyse what you are good at in life, what you enjoy, and what OTHER people enjoy about you or being with you. Why your friends are friends with you, etc.

Now you realise that you really do have SOME core value, even if it is little. You may want to consider investing in new activities like sports or music for example to become a more interesting person.

Now you are starting from a better position - but you still don't have that inner game because you've not had much success! Here's the final piece of the puzzle - you cannot build a card pyramid without each individual card.

So, you need to work on each individual card - that is, each part of your game. Learn how to do nothing by getting your inner game better, learning body language, and learning HOW TO SPEAK. This means speaking SLOW, DEEP and with pauses and sensual eye contact. All these little bits are cards. You cannot easily snap yourself success, but you CAN get these little bits, and they will CAUSE success.

So next time, before you approach a set, stop. Walk properly, open her properly, talk and stand properly. Smile, touch her (kino) where possible (in a friendly way).

The final thing I would say, is to add value. In any given interaction between two people, one person is usually adding more value than the other; make sure that is you. This gives her a reason to stay or accept you. How can you add value? Once again, before you even begin to speak, you can be boisterous, fun, smiling, happy - everyone likes to be around happy people. When you do speak, talk about interesting things or ask her interesting questions about herself. Everyone loves to talk about themselves. You can then leverage her answers with cat string theory by getting her to qualify to your standards. Check it out if you don't know it.

In summary:

Learn how to do nothing
- body language
- inner game
- voice tonality etc

Add value
- before you speak
- after you speak.

Start small. Every great journey is made of a thousand small steps x.

Thanks a lot for this i did have some problems with my inner game because of the success thing but this gives me a way to approach it hopefully it will get better and i'll be able to enjoy life more thank you.

its inner game and body language. i tend to suffer from the same problems.. its not what what you say its HOW .. thats the key here between success and failure. small details its almost as if women can sense if you have them in the bag or not.