Hi guys, having a problem in figuring this one out.

I Have been seeing this HB 8 for about 5 months. She is at uni in my city. We get on great and have sex all the time, sort of act like a blossoming couple really. We go out a lot, she has met a lot of my friends, she has told her family about me, she asked me to go away with her and family in may... I have even spoke to her mum on the phone... All good yeah?

Anyway, she has her exams in about 6 weeks and has gone home for easter holiday break. Since then I haven't really heard a lot from her! Also she was meant to be coming down to stay with me this weekend and ahs cancelled saying she needs to go visit family and she can't take 2 weekends out of studying.

This threw me off and rattled my cage a bit so I called to see what was going on, she said her parents planned the visit and she told them that she was coming to see me instead. They gave her a talking to and it seems what ever was said has kept her from even being interested in me... She doesn't reply and when she does they are short and sweet. I have to admit I have got really attached to her and want more from her, she told me she can't commit to me right now as she has to concentrate on her exams. I'm feeling kind of lost in all this and maybe over analysing thing. She said she will be a different person after these exams and stuff! I'm just a bit confused about it all. I understand she has her studdies but can't help but think she is palming me off.

Exams can take a big toll on someones life mate.

Girls get weird, they don't care that's why. Hence the word bitch is used a lot.

You getting attached has made you a little paranoid it seems right. Would you agree?

Best advice I can offer would be, don't call or txt for a day or so, see what response you get from her, and if she contacts you and asks why, tell her because her studies... When you give women a little space, they tend to come back closer if they are into you, which she obviously is.

Yeah thanks buddy! Just feels like she is washing her hands with me, I guess when she gets back here and finnishes her exams she will be back to normal! Doesn't put me in a position of knowing where the fuck I stand!! Women are mental! You maybe right though.

Put it this way, I was with a girl for 2 years who was at Uni around an hour and a half away from me, I got paranoid and eventually wrecked the relationship, my mistake. I loved this girl too and was attached, but not up her arse, I like my space so does she, that's why we worked.

When exams came, I was on at her, wanting to see her, when really i should have played it kool. If I knew about pickup then I would have loved the situation and been on top of it.

So trust me, give her a little space, keep it kool, and she will be back to normal, don't do what I did.

Thanks my man. That's made me feel a whole lot better. This uni thing is all new to me as I didn't go. So can't really empathise with the situation. Thanks for you wise advice buddy, I know what your saying is right. Just need to hear it for me to do it. I won't call and I will wait for her! Cheers bro. X

See that's why this forum is so good!

I'm the same as you, never went to uni, so it was difficult to see the other side of things.

Anyway, if you need any advice or a convo , pm me bro!

My advice is chill bro this is how many guys mess up relationships they hound girls over didn't issues... exams are a bitch especially depending on what kind of grades u make... you should always allow girls to have there space... the more space u allow usually the more they want you.... another thing learn how to enjoy time away... go out smash the clubs up or even just hang with friends... caught up on shit u gotta do or lastly, game other girls (just to ensure your self that u still have that mojo!)

Hey guys, just an update to the last post.

I went out and got drunk last weekend. I sent a msg to her ( the uni girl from last post ). She didn't reply and I feel like I don't even talk to her anymore! I text her once or twice before that and she replied but with a msgs that I can't reply to..She has done something to me and I am into her big time, but I decided last sunday to delete her number and bbm. I am not able to contact her unless I find her on FBook or something.I'm just wondering if thats the best thing to have done! I guess if she wants to see me she will call me after her exams. Fuckin women are wired!

Can I get your thoughts fellas!?

You did the right thing. Now you can't stupidly contact her. I bet she will be in touch, some women thrive off men being at their feet, well the majority, just gotta show her your no mug, and what you did is right.

Thanks man, yeh they I think its the best thing. I'm not short of girls but this one is one that I feel more for. I will keep you posted on what happens. If she does contact me I will be harder work and stand off a little.

Time for push and pull. Game the others, it'll drag you away from the one you feel for even more .