Hey guys,
I lost it today! I'm not sure if u fucked up or not!

Basically I'm seeing a girl that is at uni, she is really gorgeous, has a great personality and we get on fantastic. Problem I'm having is I like her a lot and make it quite clear to her. She, on the hand keeps her cards close to her chest! I don't ever know what she thinks about us she never says anything about how she feels and it keeps me in the dark... She has got exams I'm May and has gone home on 6 weeks holiday and she is studying alot.

I was meant to spend this weekend with her but she txt me today telling me that she has to go and see family in London and can't have 2 weekends away so she has to cancel on me...

That pissed me off so earlier I called her, asked her what was going on with us etc.. She said she doent know. She said she likes me blah blah but has to concentrate on studying! I couldn't really get much more out of her other then her parents have been telling her since she met me she hasn't be concentrating on her studying. I think that has a lot to do with what she is saying and how she is being with me. So I have said I will leave it to her to contact me. Just don't really know what to do now as I can't get her out my head. I am really into her and don't really want to end things! Have I fucked up or done the right thing?

Well is there anything more you can tell us. Have you guys kissed? Does she act the same way with you as she does other guys? So the situation is a little harder to read.

Personally, i would never ask a girl where i stand with her. Remember, if you want a girl as your girlfriend, she has to want to be your boyfriend, first. Which means that you can't force the issue when it comes to relationships. All you can really do is put a move on her. Wether it's kissing, or sex, or something. And if you honestly believe that she's into you, then you should do that. After that call, You're really at her mercy right now, so all you can do is hope she gets back to you.

Yeah this is the deal, I have been seeing her for 6 months. I have slept with her and kissed her like we were a couple! I speak to her nearly every day.I would never just bang out the question "what's going on with us" unless I was in this situation. I really like her, iv got quite attached, I don't want to mess things up where I don't see or speak to her, but now after our chat last night I have put the ball in her court and said I will leave it to her now as she is busy with her exams! That's the deal Basically.

Short answer, which you're not gonna like: Sounds like oneitis to me.

Long answer: You're saying that you've made it quite obvious that you're into her. Personally, I don't find anything wrong with it, but it's an attraction killer, because she sees it as wussy behavior. She should be the one telling her how she feels about you first, you having the 'I'm cool and there are plenty of women around'-attitude. David DeAngelo has some really good material about this subject. However, it's a bit late for that.

You have already stated your intent, and it's like romance: It can amplify existing attraction, or it can scare her if she isn't totally into you. Think of it: If you meet a girl, and you see her as a friend, she will scare the shit out of you if she tells you she loves you. You would back-off in that situation. On the other hand, if you totally love this girl, and she then says she loves you spontaneously, you will feel that as an attraction builder. Got it?

Now, I've been in this situation myself not so long ago (met a girl in July, but only got it working in January, when I learned about PUA) so I think I can give you some advice.
First of all: Get your attitude up and running. She now feels like she can 'have' you anytime she wants, which makes you (in her mind) a bit boring. You're also predictable, because she knows that the moment she sends out a signal about liking you, you're gonna respond with something like 'I like you too'.
My girl had this too: I could building up attraction for over a month, then she would text me saying 'you're really fantastic because you always make me smile blablbla', to which I responded 'I really like you too and we should date sometime', to which she in return responds with 'I'm not feeling it like that and I hope you're not upset now blablabla'.
Anyway, key to this is that the moment I told her how I felt, she lost all her feeling for me because she began thinking: 'Do I like him? Why do I like him? I've only talked to him for 15 minutes, I don't know him, so I can't like him'. Bad situation.

So, February 2nd, I met her volleyball-coach (who I knew from beachvolleyball-practice). She was acting a bit uninterested in me, dunno why. February 3th, I was on my way from university to home, when I texted her something like 'does your coach not like me, or was she just having a bad day yesterday?'. This is how we got back in contact after 4 weeks of ignorance.
February 4th, we talked on MSN. With my new attitude I negged her, I DQed her and I stated my preselection value with all the university-girls (stone cold bluff). Within 2 hours of talking, she was all over me. Yeah she shit tested me, but my reactions were good. She stated her intentions, we planned a date, she tried to flake 2 days later so I completely ignored her for the following month, after which she came back, apologizing, saying she likes me and things like that. So after that we met (chances of flaking reduced to 0), and kissed and all.


Okay, back to you. I hope you can relate to this story, because my guess is that you are dealing with the same kind of girl. You should let her know that she's not most important to you. You are most important to yourself.
Your reaction was good. She will probably come back, and in the meanwhile just keep going on with your life. Prepare for having to start the process all over again. And then, when she comes back, get her working for you. Not the other way around.