I was sitting in my living room after work and saw a Men's Health Magazine in the corner of the room that had been there for months. I picked it up, was paging through it and came to an article talking about relationships. It got me thinking about this girl I met over the weekend, I googled some things and ended up on this site, which is pretty interested and has a lot of great insight. well done!

Here my problem:

When it comes to woman, I normally don't have a problem getting laid.
I'm an attractive guy, I know how to flirt and I know how to get a girls clothes off.

However, most of the girls that I meet I typically have no interest in whatsoever so it's easy to not go out of my way to text/call them, drag them along and basically not give a fuck in general. And everyone knows here, it always works out beautifully when YOU DON'T CARE. My problem lays in the woman I actually like or show an interest in.

I met this girl over the weekend.
There was an instant connection.
We were having a long conversation at a party and it felt like we were the only people in the room. She ends up meeting me at my house later that night at 2:30 in the morning. The conversation continued in my room, we hook up for a little bit, and then she bails on me at around 3:30 AM claiming in a text message, "If i left everything out there, there would be nothing else to figure out. i'm really glad we encountered each other this evening" (well played)

She texts ME the next day at around 3 pm.
We flirt and exchanged texts for a couple solid hours.
She ends up texting me again asking me "how my night was" while she is out at a party. We continue flirting and exchange text for awhile and say goodnight.

I text her the next day asking how HER day was.
We flirt a little more, and then I got to a point where I felt as though I was forcing the conversation to continue, so I bowed out gracefully and left her with the last words.

I haven't heard for her today, and I don't really plan on texting or calling her until she makes the next move. If ANYTHING, I was going to call her on Thursday or Friday and see what her plans were for that night. Bad move?

I am very interested in this girl, but I felt as though maybe we were jumping into things too fast and maybe she feels the same? I've put myself in an awkward position. I want to keep her on her toes, but I also don't want to come off as needy. I want her to know I'm still interested, but I'm also not trying to put myself out there.

It's really funny how when I actually like a girl I fail and have no clue what to do, but when It comes to someone I could careless about everything comes naturally.

Go figure.

If you guys have any suggestions how to further pursue this girl, advice would be greatly appreciated.

thanks for your time!

sounds like you should not care to me...

treat her like one of the girls you dont care about losing and she should fall in line with the rest

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Good Points. I think you should def. act like you don't care. It sounds like you wanna get laid though, so maybe the next time you see her, try a freeze out when you guys are hooking up.

By the looks of it, she is really into you. But, she just got bored. I mean, you just kept flerting and bla bla bla and did not make any moves. It's like that cat with the toy example: if you throw a toy to a cat, it wil play for a while, but if you don't keep moving it and doing something different, it will loose interest quickly.

So you shoud just ask her out. Don't wait for her to make the next move, because she must think now that you are one of those guys who just flirt but don't know what to to when it's time to act, and so if you don't do anything it'll confirm her thoughts and it's game over. Go and be a man. Tell her you want to talk, to see her again and go do something fun together. Be the alpha, tell her you are going to see her and just drop by her place and take her out (don't need to actually do that, but I think you got the spirit of the idea).

It doesn't need to be like the most exciting night of your lives, but try and think of something cool to do. And it is important that you do something you know she likes. Try and remember of your conversations with her. If she mentioned something she likes a lot to do, go for that to create a greater connection. If you don't know what she might like, just try and be creative.

Cheers

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The minute you care about a girl you loose. I don't care about other principles this is the truth. You start to analyze, ask for advice, all of the things you are doing. You should NEVER care about what happens with you and some girl. If it works great, if it doesn't even greater.

Yea maybe she got bored, maybe she didn't. There are one thousands maybes that you could analyze all day, I prefer to act on accomplishing things as opposed to sitting around like a pussy and trying to figure out a random girl that I am idealizing.

By the way, you are idealizing this girl.

My opinion?

When she texted you the first time why you didnt you tell her to come over. You just flirted on text messages? That's kind of weak if you ask me. Call her up, tell her to come over and hang out then fuck her. That's what she wants anyways.

The second you start painting a girl as some innocent little angel that you want to take things slow and this and that whatever fuck it. If she don't like it, she won't come over. The whole point is it doesn't matter if she likes it or not, because you shouldn't care about the outcomes EVERRRR. It should just be fun and a compliment to your life, but if you have no women at all your life should be just as fulfilling, if not more fulfilling because you don't have to analyze her to figure it out like the basis for this post.

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