I have a huge problem with blushing and being shy around girls. I went on 2 dates with a girl I didn't like, my parents forced me to, and I still had problems with what she would think about me. Although I didn't blush I was really quiet and not my normal self. I have a plan though, when I get back to school on Monday I will ask out every girl I find attractive, probably skipping openers and everything so I don't waste time. If they say no then I will build my immunity to rejection, if she says yes that's cool too because I have a date. Does this sound like a good plan? I also saw this guy on YouTube dress up like Dorothy from The Wizard of Oz and walk around emberassing himself. I thought about that too, but what are your suggestions on that and is this a good or bad idea? Oh and I might build a school wide rapport about being "fearless" or "ballsy" or "confident".

Thanks in advance and if your answer is really good I will give you good rep. although I only have like 0.5.

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It sounds like a start. Just make sure that what you are doing isn't "I'm going to go prove to myself that I can handle rejection by getting rejected". David DeAngelo talks about this. Remember improvement is attention to detail and setting yourself achievable goals. Practice only makes perfect when you practice perfectly. So if you go out and say "I'm going to make eye contact with every girl and not look away till she does" that's an achievable goal and you can succeed at it nearly every time you do it. Or if you say "I'm going to start a conversation and try to elicit a positive response" again the goal is simple but achievable.

My brother tried what you're doing a couple years back. Which is ask a load of girls out. He got nearly 0 success, because he carried the belief that they weren't going to say yes. Sure you might achieve your goal to become immune to rejection, but is that really what you want to be working on? If you do go out there and ask a lot of girls out, CONVINCE YOURSELF that they are going to say yes, see what happens.

P.S. I love the Dorothy idea. Just a tip for dressing in drag when sarging, don't act femine. ACT as masculine and sexual as you can. ex: grab your balls.

Thanks bro, that actually makes a lot of sense.

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The younger you are the more girls you should ask out. Fail as much as you can while young, so you can learn from it. I wish I knew that early on. Still young, but it would've helped in middle school.

Anyway, don't sweat it. It's all in your head.

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WTF? I have 100+ post...Geez! I'm such a Keyboard Jockey.

Wait, girls I'm interested in to get over fear or asking them out with applying game and actually serious about it?

EDIT: As for the blushing, even if the girl isn't interested in my but I am in her, i still blush because I think she is good looking and I don't want to emberass myself. But I come off as someone who cares too much about what otehrs think.

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For the blushing: Eyes on the prize brosiff.... your the prize tho.

You should go into the situation with a cocky/ funny attitude, and a guy who knows that people want to be around him. And if they dont want in his life, that's THEIR problem not YOURS.

And you dont have to dress up like Dorothy, but you can go out one night, and just talk to a bunch of girls your age. High school, It was always the mall for me...College: bars and music lounges et cetera...

Go at it with a scientists perspective, if you get shot down, take a few notes...what did I do, what did I not do...then walk away and move on to the next set...

NEVER FORGET>>>WORSHIP THE 3S!
You got 3 seconds after you and a girl notice each other to say something to her...if you dont you fail you might as well move along...

I made a hot girl laugh today. I normally am too shy to say anything to them, but my friend was like say hi, so I said him in a mentally challenged voice and she looked at me weird, then laughed when she got it. Then I found out somebody had replied to this, and thanks, you have officially made my day.

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Yeah, what u described is exactly wut u need to do... you already went on 2 dates so that's a very good start, even if your parents forced you, "you" are still the one who were courageous enough to do it.... the way I see it, just like practicing a slap shot for the first time, you'll get better each and every time you challenge yourself.

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Cheers mate! Glad I could help.

A few weeks ago I was walking around in the Southside in lovely Pittsburgh Pennsylvania *rolls eyes* and decided to high five just about every girl I walked by.

Now some of them rejected me and acted too good. So I then proceded to playfully ''boo'' that girl and cheer on the girls, who were often times the stragglers in the group, who had high fived me back.

I did this rather enthusiastically and sometimes the girls would lock hands with me, I gave them ''the look'' and said '' nice'' in a playful way.

However, I didnt know how to start off from there, but its a great ego boost for you when your out and will definitely help future sets...