HB9 sits right front of me and turns around and asks me what we did last class. i told her and i decided to randomly smile as i was telling her and she smiled back ... conversation ended after that.

how should i open and get a better conversation going next class? is it even possible to open her without it seeming awkward if im sitting directly behind her?

if it matters, i caught her turning around and making eye contact with me... we also had a pop quiz that class so should i ask her something about how she did on the quiz as an opener? or ask her if she knows when the next test is?

after the opener i wouldn't know how to continue the conversation though.

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Dude, Go cocky & funny with her in a non conspicuous manner. Don't go with the easy questions like "how did you do with your quizz ?" or worse (" Do you like this class ?") I mean ... What are you the college quality police ?? :p

Rather, if you have a group of friends, talk to them at the beginning of the class and at one point just approach her from the side and say something like :

"Ok... You owe me an answer ! *big grin* Me and my buddies are trying to settle a matter here and it's a dead-even, so your vote matters... Matter of fact it could change our life... *let a bit of suspense build up, count to 3 in your head* Do you prefer chocolate or vanilla ice cream?" (great for further use)

If she looks at you funny and looks confused, she's trying to make you feel self conscious about your question. Neg her badly. Ex : "Should I .errr....RE-PEAT-THE-QUES-TION ?" with a big smile of course. or mimic her expression if it's really too cliché

Then if she looks hurt, don't apologize, but instead move to a topic you might like.
If you feel it's going really badly, just leave, she isn't interested...or too dumb to be negged... or you executed your move badly...or she took it badly... i dunno, it happens.

Watchout... Gaming rules are different when you play in an environment where you know the people and are going to see them again. You can't be COMPLETELY reckless. But don't be a pussy either :p

Stand tall and lay back a bit when u talk to her, don't lean into her personnal space (temptation is great when ur standing and the person is sitting as a table)

what if i don't have a group of friends in the class lol

Then make one brother. I'm not a "friend" person. I'm a loner. But i KNOW friends (even fake conversation ones you DON't see out of class) give you value. You need to have an outpost to fall back to if things go badly. And KNOWING this base is ther will almost make sure things go well.

OR if you feel a lil crazy (i dunno you after all so maybe u can, i know i can't) just go and ask her DIRECTLY "do you have any friends you REALLY relate well to ? Coz i just moved in this year and i've had problems understanding the local customs" *playful smile*

Try to get into HER group of friends. If she doesn't have friends, it's all good, ask her to meet you in the library to work on sumin.

If she isn't the type to "study", find SOMETHING you can do in comon. If you feel she is saying no to your proposal a bit too easily, forget about her. KEEP that thought in your head. You'll have that confidence about you. (i've already ignored girls i LOVED more than hell, DO IT. Be ready to lose if you want to win)

PM me with specifics if you want more accurate advice.

You sit behind her correct? I'd joke about cheating off her work or something. Ask her after a quiz if all her answers were correct, she'll probably say something like "I don't know" or "I hope so". Then ask her "Well, what do you think I made on it then?"

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I know it's too late now, but instead of telling her what you did last class, I would have negged her for skipping.

I would have said something like, "well if I tell you, you're never going to learn your lesson" or something along those lines. Or if you're looking to flirt even more, you could say "well I could tell you, but what are you gonna do for me?" (NOT in a sexual tone)

Is cockyfunny the best way to go in college?
If that's the method you've been practising and your comfortable with it then use it, but if you first ever run with it is going to be with a girl in your class whom you've not spoken to before chances are it won't go as smooth as you may expect.
Just think about it from her point of view
"There's this cute guy that sits behind me in my class, he's really shy and quite but he seems like a decent guy" if you then turn to her and be this loud, slightly obnoxious guy (not that it's a bad thing, if it's your style) she'll just get scared and it'll leak more [value] than a school girl at a Jonas Bros. concert AND you have the rest of your time at college together with all her friends knowing the stunt you pulled. If it's your last year then go for it. You should never not try something new but only if the benefits out weigh the costs.
If I was you I would go in a bit more subtle and then escalate. Start with the opener "How'd did your exam go?" then joke about how the teacher is like "a Nazi" (if it's history. Try and relate it to the subject). Just tangent like crazy.
I would recommend not to close with a potential date though. I have this problem where I escalate too much. I would say when she's laughing the most, fake a call or something and leave (go in for a hug). You know you'll see her again and it doesn't show desperation.

I have been in quite a few situations like this myself. There would be an HB sitting next to me or a couple seats away in class and i found myself over thinking my approach and couldnt come up with anything even worth opening with.

Next few classes i just walked right in and opened with a simple "how are you doing today" and then move into a conversation with a transition such as:

"oh man, i dont know if i am ready to deal with this class today"
"i may fall asleep listening to professor x this class"

Something about the overall feeling of just being in class, she is in the class as well and has something she cant tolerate. Or crack a joke about the professor. These are great openers/conversation starters because it breaks the common ground between you, you both have to sit through and take this class right off the bat with out having to revolve the convo about studying for a test, or talking about homework. Once you point out the obvious commonality then it is easy to start working your routine.