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| CaLib0i | PostPosted: Mon Apr 05, 2010 6:52 pm | |
| Offline | | Member of MPUA Forum |  | Joined: Sat Sep 22, 2007 5:39 am Posts: 156 Yahoo Messenger: bannana_q@yahoo.com AOL: PoohTangInnahMo Location: LA | | Well if your a douchebag you need to read Dale Carnegie's How to Win friends and Influence others.
I wouldn't recommend it for PU, but it helps to know those things when you're in damage control.
Anyway don't worry about it. If you pushed it too far, that's better than pushing little by little. At least now you know where the border line is right? _________________ WTF? I have 100+ post...Geez! I'm such a Keyboard Jockey.
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| casthenova | PostPosted: Tue Apr 06, 2010 1:08 pm | |
| Offline | | Member of MPUA Forum |  | Joined: Sat Feb 06, 2010 3:07 pm Posts: 154 Location: Ohio | | I have experience with this same sort of situation. When I first become a natural, I was obsessed with state and just approaching everyone and saying outlandish things. Here is what happened though. You begin THROWING yourself in people's faces when you are overly confident. This comes off as incredibly arrogant and just feeds jealousy.
The best way to approach people is to be genuinely interested in them. Never talk about yourself. You don't matter, and they will ask you tons of questions anyways. Make them drag information out of you, like you didn't want to offer it because you are a HUMBLE person.
People aren't all confident, in fact the majority of them are utterly confused. They are probably very insecure and you represent everything they are not. This translate into jealousy and hatred. Why would you ever want that? Enemies will only bring you down in the end.
Don't be a cocky prick, no one likes a cocky prick. Just remember that what you say has very little importance. What you represent, convey and subcommunicate are all that matters.
Subcommunicate that you care, are humble and want to help people feel better and everyone will like you. _________________ Ahead of my time, like I live my whole life backwards.
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| AM2991 | PostPosted: Thu Apr 08, 2010 5:13 am | |
| Offline | | New to MPUA Forum | Joined: Tue Jan 26, 2010 1:01 am Posts: 21 Location: Adelaide, Australia | | read that book by mark redman called "conquer your campus", its great stuff, although it applies to college and uni, it still can be applied to highschool. it mainly adresses topic of being a fun, well-liked and socialable guy on campus. great insight to read for people still stuck in the mindset of just taking/having an agenda and just basically coming of as a "love-leech"
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| justone | PostPosted: Fri Apr 09, 2010 8:54 am | |
| Offline | | New to MPUA Forum |  | Joined: Wed Feb 25, 2009 11:40 pm Posts: 25 Yahoo Messenger: justone84 Location: Peoria, AZ | | Dale Carnegie gave you a suggestion on a book! HAHA
Reading this kind of reminded me of my former boss. He was British, he was an absolute cock and nobody liked him. He did two things. One: He always talked down to us (his team) and other people in other departments. Two: he always was out on the prowl talking with girls whom he worked with and treating them like princesses. Basically it came down to this
To men: he gave no attention and basically talked down to constantly
To women: he gave all the attention and gave them compliments constantly
Of course, guys hated him and women were disgusted by him. I learned a valuable lesson watching his actions and seeing his results. Using these lessons I eventually got promoted into his position and got laid more than he could ever dream.
I realized that you can get men's respect and approval by being genuinely interested in them, and never putting them down (unless they can dish it back). And you can get womens respect and approval by doing the opposite, of course with fun and humorous attitude.
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