Last Monday in acting class, my partner (HB9) and I were rehearsing our scene. There is a part where we kiss. So we're downstairs in the basement rehearsing, and we do the scene, along with the kiss. Each time we do the scene our kiss gets longer, until we're just making out. We stayed nonchalant during our conversations afterward. Mostly talked about our scene, and acted normal. After class we talk some more outside like normal, only this time I have my arm around her slightly, then we make out again as I leave. The she then offers to give me a ride to my car. The car ride was normal. then we make out again as I leave.

So in a nutshell, We made out a bunch of times that day, yet we talked normal like we always do. I called her Wednesday evening, and left a message about going hiking on Saturday. I haven't heard back from her.

I don't know if she changed her mind and doesn't like me, maybe I came on too strong by calling her, and I should have left it alone until I see her next Monday. Or maybe she's playing hard to get.

I have been getting heavy IOI's from her all term, and I was certain that she likes me. Making out with her multiple times confirmed it. I just don't know why she didn't call me back.

So what should I do on Monday when I go to class?

background info
(No assigned seats, but I have been sitting by her the last few weeks, I'm 21, she's 18, during the break at 3, me her, and a few other guys usually walk on over to McDonald's ( I don't eat fast food, I just go for the walk) and she always waits for me, or tells me to hurry if I'm doing something real quick. There's plenty of food and drink places within walking distance. She went with me to get a smoothie the week before, after class)

Also, keep in mind that we still have our scene to work on until the end of the term.

Girls won't respond to you if they like you, but are not motivated to spend time with you. They are in a state of thinking "Do I want to go out with him or not?" and Since you left her a message about hiking she probably doesn't enjoy hiking that much. Hiking is a big deal. It takes a long ass time, and it is a lot of energy. You really need to kind of focus on yourself, and your acting career. I know you enjoy hanging out with her, but don't bother her with long day trips. You don't got time for that anyway. Your busy with your acting class. Your trying to be an actor. Don't waste whole days trying to sleep with a women.

I know this girl I want to have sex with. But I don't have sex with her because it's too much work. We see each other in our honor society. I just don't give a fuck. I don't give a fuck. I don't care. Sure she is hot but I'm not going to stick my neck out for her just to give her the chance to turn me down. Fuck that. I'm going to keep my shit to myself, and worry about my own.

I don't need a hot bitch to make me feel good about my life. Sure it helps! but overall I am in love with myself. And i get that feeling of completeness by accomplishing my goals in school and winning scholarships. I won't stick my neck out for some girl because then my mind will obsess about her. And I don't have time to be falling in love with every hot girl that comes into my life.

So why don't you just fuck it. LIke don't try to make it happen. I mean if you want to fuck a lot of chicks then party a lot. But if you want to have a successfull career then you need to study a lot and stay home, and do day activities. I know it sucks, but thats how it is if you are busy.

Maybe you can manage to make time for a women, but utilize the time you have. Don't ask her randomly to go do things over the phone by calling. You already called her and left her a message. You need to be a little annoyed that she didn't reply to you, but you also need to realize what you did might have been desperate. I mean it's not really, but why didn't you just text her? Calling a girl is a big deal now days. It really puts her on the spot. And if she doesn't know why you are calling then you are expecting a lot from her. She is just confused now. It's not a big deal. Just be more expressive about what you want to do before you do it.

It's kind of like writting an essay. You need to tell her what you want to do. Ask her to do it. Then tell her what you just did. Then she will understand what the fuck happened. I hate to break it to you, but most hot women I know are trained to follow. But will only go into submission after you let them know what kind of treat they are in for. And some are really dumb. They might not appreicate the same things in life that you do. They may hate to look at a nice view from the top of a mountain. Some people just don't know how to appriecate life. And if that is this girl then maybe you need to consider what it is that you really like about her.

I mean, do you only want her because she is HOT? Because if so then you just need to worry about on thing. Partys. Now if you want to get to know her so you can date her and be her boyfriend, then just relax and have a good time. Stop trying to make it happen. I wouldn't recommend waiting more than 3 weeks without contact though. Maybe you can party then fuck then then be her boyfriend.... IDK.

For some reason I assume you are just intrested in fucking her. But I also sense that you are focused on your career. If that is true then you need to prioritize your life. You know that school is more important. So you are going to have to give her a break. Don't worry about her, and don't spend hours on this website writing about how to get her! LOL. Just focus on school and have her around as an acting partner. If you do this, you might end up in the friend zone. I don't know if you can handle the friend zone. Can you handle it or will you snap if you see her with another man? Have you already fucked up your mind so much that if you saw her with another man you would be upset?

Since you made out with her... I assume it was more than just the acting class? At a party? Or when? Because if you and her only kissed for acting class that is a totally different story than making out.

Lets just answer both your questions now. Lets say she made out with you at a party. Then you are suppose to fuck her. Your next move is to get her to a party get her drunk and sleep with her.

Now lets say she only kissed you in acting class. Well she might not like you as much as you think. Sure she is coming onto you, but why do you have to call her to ask her to go hiking? If she really liked you then she would make it easy to ask her stuff like this in person.... right? Maybe she doesn't like you as much as you think. Why don't you give me some examples of why you think she likes you so much.

She is not playing hard to get. She is only 18 and hasn't figured that one out yet. Well let me know what you think. I have to assume a lot because of what I know. So tell me if I am missing any holes. Thanks for listening, I hope you benefit a little.

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That is a lot of interesting points to think about, but here's my take on it;

It's almost like - making out, and her seeing you in a sexual way, are two separate things. So far, making out is just something that happened, and neither of you have any control over it. I have to say that the whole "she doesn't want to appear easy" thing comes into it. She definitely likes what she's getting from you, the little interactions during the day confirm this.

But you are not escalating verbally, and this comes with experience. If you try too hard to though, the danger is you just come off as unsure and trying too hard to come on to her, which will put her in the "oh no I've lead him on and now he's got the wrong idea" mindset. When infact you just escalated wrong.

You should definitely play it cool, as magnum said. But this is how relationships start - however they mainly progress on if the guy is confident and knows what he wants - but you need experience. It's possible for someone to move forward without experience if they are particularly blessed with a natural feel for this and being in touch with what they want to do, ie. not stressing out over this.

The mindset that will make the most of this is you knowing you've got something she wants, and you not being concerned with what this results in - just enjoying the ride. Basically send the vibe that you're not going to get all "OMG we need to start dating and get all committed to each other!" instead "We have a good time hey *wink* and maybe escalate the fun in other ways - rather than jump out to inviting her somewhere, try to make more things happen around the places where she's comfortable with you, eg. get some fun group conversations happening, if there's something being shown at the school, check it out together - basically look around for opportunities and make the most of them - without trying too hard.

maybe that's what i'm not understanding. is your "normal" conversation already pretty in-depth and this is just the physical part catching up? are you just discussing technical parts of the scene or is it getting more personal?

In general, I think these things take some time and involve a little back and forth at first. just don't let it go on too long unless you want to become her best firend and nothing else.

I would say act normal, sit next to her, etc. At some point when you're alone, press the question, but nothing has to change for now in you college interactions. Also, pressing the question right away could make you seem needy.

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NO QUESTION! Honestly, if you say "hey do you WANT to go out?" how do you think that will go? No. No questions. You already know what the answer to such a question would be, because she turned you down for hiking.

Like I said - your mindset is simply - you've got something she wants, and make things fun and try to escalate, but just enjoy the ride. She turned you down for hiking which means she's not yet comfortable seeing you in that capacity yet. Take advantage of the fact that you both go to school together to do "fun" little things in the environment she's already comfortable with you in, and build comfort that way.

The idea is that eventually you will build enough attraction, so that she's pretty much popping the question to you. Most girls tend to avoid using exact words though, but you will know what's going on when it happens.

That's how sex works. She better be ready to rip your clothes off by the time you get into bed - it's all about building up things before hand so that you know she wants it. You don't ASK if she wants it!!! If you have to ask, then the answer is no!

When you communicate with girls, you communicate almost exclusively through sub-communication, with body language and tone of voice. You convey something that way, then you get your response by watching - not her words, but her body language and tone of voice, and timing. You cannot ask, or reason with a girl, with purely words, to get her to do anything social or sexual.

Haha, this is great. I'm an actor as well and one of my fondest memories of a girl is from an acting class with a similar set up.

I don't know what your situation is exactly, but here's my idea. Get her to come over to your place to practice. The scene you guys are acting out is getting her "in state." Real Method Acting stuff going on. If you can get her in state at your place (or any place associated only with you two and not with acting class) you can get her to start associating those feelings of attraction from teh scene with you.

Or, if you want to go for the quick and dirty, you have a perfect push-pull setup. You run the scene, makeout. Kino escalate. LMR. Freeze out by beginning the scene over again. Return, inevitably to the makeout, kino escalate further. Repeat to f-close.

Again, I don't know if that would work based on the sort of class you're taking, but it's your best, and easiest bet if you can make it happen.