Hey, this is my first post but i've been reading posts on here for awhile and I also read "The Game" recently.
So, last Thursday I was in a bar with a couple of friends having drinks and just having a good time.
Suddenly, a HB9 comes in the bar and all of my buddies were talking about how attractive she was and how they were all going to try to get with her. I noticed that I had met this women once about 5 months ago in kind of the same situation (she was friends with some of my friends and happened to be at the same place). At that time I was acting way to needy and she was with what apparently sounded like her boyfriend, so I tried to flirt with her but had the feeling she wasn't interested, therefore, I didn't even try to grab her number.
This time however, I thought "hey, thats that girl I tried to flirt with and let me down, she's gorgeous, but she wasn't interested in me so i'm not going to try anything".
She came up with her friend, sat down at our table and started to speak with the people we knew in common, while I was speaking with one of our mutual friends and gave her absolutely ZERO attention, not even a hello, she cut me and tried to engage a conversation with him. I immediately cut her back and said:"Hey I'm in the middle of the conversation here".
My friends laughed and she had that look on her face like "nobody talks to me like that".
Later she came near me and started engaging the conversation, saying that she remembered me and all that.
I continued to give her very little attention but still flirted with her. Before she left she asked me to come to a club with her. I played hard to get but finally agreed, saying that I would meet her over there later because I had stuff to handle before.
When I finally arrived to the club, I immediately went to the dancefloor with some friends that were with me, and a buddy of me told me later "Dude, she was about to sit down at the table but when she saw you come in and start dancing she immediately got back up and straight to the dancefloor."
During our time in the club, I noticed a couple of IOI's, she was pushing me gently, telling me to "stop making fun of her", sliding very close to my body/touching me when she was walking somewhere (when clearly she had space to walk right by without us touching), dancing with each other, but most importantly, we were exchanging extremely LONG eye contacts and both smiling to each other. I could see that spark in her.
I refused to try and kiss her because she has a boyfriend (they've been together for 3 weeks and apparently he is the "rebound boyfriend"), and knowing that if she has a boyfriend, you NEED to make HER chase you.
So the next day, at about 4pm I talked to her on facebook chat, joking about an event that had happened the night before. She was adding a ":)" at the end of each sentence, but this doesn't always mean anything. Finally, she told me she was going to bar X that night and that I needed to tag along. I told her I had plans so probably wouldn't be available.
Later that night I went out with all my buddies to bar X, it wasn't on purpose at all because we were attending a birthday that was at that spot. I received a text, 1 hour after I got there saying "Go to bar X now!", I asked "who are you?" she answered "Claire
".
Then she entered the bar, I didn't lift myself off my chair and she came personally to say hello, then went to another table with her friends. While the time at the bar, we exchanged a bunch of long eye-contacts with "colgate-smiles", and I went up to her table a couple of times to chat with her friends and her, always making fun of her pleasently.
When I left the bar, I said goodbye to her best-friend (who was with her own boyfriend) and she told me to keep them posted on what I was doing later that night, I told her that I would text her boyfriend if anything came up, but she laughed and said "No, text Claire".
I said goodbye to Claire and whispered in her ear "I'll be waiting for your call tommorow." The she had a big smile and I just left.
One minute after leaving the bar she texted me
"I don't have enough money to text you
However, for that hot other guy".
I didn't answer immediately and she said "No answer?",
I answered back saying "Your cute
",
she said "I know",
I then answered "And pretentious
" ,
she answered "You don't get my humor
"
I then left for another bar and she texted me to know where i was at, I didn't have any signal so I lost track for 1 hour, after which my phone got back up and I had 5 text messages:
"Hey so how is that bar? Is it still opened ?"
"ChristmasWish, Mike has been trying to call you guys but you don't answer, we'd like to know where the bar is at"
I then answered I had no signal at that time but we were leaving and going home, she said the same so then, I again told her:
"Ok, i'll be waiting on your call tommorow
"
Claire:"Why would I call you?
"
Me:"You know why.. Goodnight
"
Claire:"Well no, I absolutely don't....
What is that hotties name?"
IMportant information here: Later I heard that she already knew his name, so clearly trying to get me jealous.
I didn't answer her text till the morning after, when I said:"I'm not sure which one your talking about, but I can hook you up no doubt!
"
Claire:" Haha your so stupid
See you tonight maybe"
5 hours later she was asking me what we were doing at night. I didn't answer so she sent me the same text back ten minutes later. I briefly told her I had a party at a friends house, and wouldn't be available.
Later that night she sent me a text, asking me how was the party, most importantly she gave me a surname, I asked her what it meant but she just said that "it fitted me well".
We then texted each other through the night for awhile, until she didn't answer my last text at around 5am. The morning after, she texted "Sorry for not responding last night, I fell asleep at my boyfriends place."
Then I asked myself, would I be happy if my GF was texting intensely other men while with me, what does this mean about her, how she feels about me?
I didn't answer that text.
One day later, she woke me up with a message and I answered "Thanks for waking me up!
" , she replied "No problem
" then I didn't answer anything so 1 hour later she wrote me "I'm sorry for waking you up.. Don't be mad at me
", I told her that I thought it was cute and it didn't piss me off at all. She then replied that she to meet me at a bar later that week, I told her I doubt I would be available because I had other plans.
Later that day, she starting speaking on facebook with a friend of mine, and "liked" a picture of his, which pissed me off but I didn't say anything about it.
Yesterday, she sent me a text, asking me how I was, I didn't answer.
Today, for April Fool's I posted on my status update that I was leaving the country and was going to go live in the USA (keep in mind that i'm living in Europe).
She texted me "So I saw your leaving for the US, i'd like for us to get together one last time!
"
I answered "Hey, ive been pretty busy with all the moving, so i'm not sure i'll be available. But please, do me a favor, don't cry when I leave
"
She told me to stop acting like a smart ass and insisted I should meet her and her friends at the bar tomorrow.
So here I am, this is my situation, my story. I think i've done a good job until now.
The question is, she has a boyfriend, is she just toying with me (i've tried to avoid that making HER engage every conversation, making HER text me and ask me out, making myself very unavailable).
We seem to really connect and get along when we are together.
So, what do you think my chances are with this girl? How should I act when I see her tomorrow?
Thanks in advance,
ChristmasWish
CHAT
