Hey guys,

Wondered if you could help me with my current problem...I'm experiencing bad approcach anxiety and it is resulting in me making '0' approaches. I'm able to get girls here and there but they're not exactly up to standard.

Here's my situation...I've recently come out of a 2 year relationship and I'm having to start everything from the beginning. Before this relationship, I was heavily involved in the game. I've slept with over a 100 women, I've made many approaches in the past (even though occasionally back then I could sometimes freeze up), Ive even given demostrations.
I get so many looks from attractive women just begging me to come and talk to them - basically guaranteeing no inital rejection - but I still do nothing. I just know that once I start flowing, my game is deadly. Its just a matter of finding this flow.

This is turning into a big problem as it leaves me with that dry empty feeling - I'm sure you are all aware of the feeling I am talking about.

I know it as easy as saying "just make the move", but we all know its not always quite that easy.

Has anyone overcome this problem in the past, can any one help??

Looking forward to hearing your insight...

Romboy.

What are your options?

1- Keep doing nothing and get those sub-par girls that approach you.

2- Make those approaches and get your mojo back thus ensuring good quality

Seems obvious to me.

Perhaps, just to get you going more out of your shell, next time you are out when you see a girl you like just walk next/up to her say hi, and keep on walking smiling as you came in. Do that to many women that night. You will most likely get some that will start conversations then. Or come back later to talk to you. If not then no biggie. Next time you can add a 'how is is going?' and work from there after that "Hi" or any other comments. Just get the lips running!

Good luck

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I'm in almost the same situation. I just recently got out of a 3.5 year relationship... I basically had to ask myself if I was going to marry this girl and the answer kept coming up no, so I decided to break it off and get back in the game. Before this relationship, e.g. in college, I was ok, but not spectacular with girls. I've had a few girlfriends and a few dozen booty calls and one night stands. Now I feel like I'm back at square one. I am a good looking guy, very tall, physically fit, "tall dark handsome" but even when chicks are giving me those begging puppy eyes from across the bar, I can't even muster the courage to say hi. A little paranoid voice keeps telling me that they are trying to make me come over there just so they can rip my heart out. I even still have a little voice that tells me not to be unfaithful, and I have to keep telling that little guy to get lost because I'm single again!

One hangup I have is that I feel like I really need a few good wings. I am in grad school which is a very closed, slightly uptight, and gossipy place, so if I embarrass myself in front of my friends here, it is not only extra-embarrassing but potentially professionally damaging as well. In college I was on a varsity team and in a fraternity, so I basically had a ton of wings all trying our best to get each other laid and that made things a hell of a lot easier.

Romboy and Mauser, reading your guy's story is like reading my own with a few changes. Out of a LTR, used to be somewhat good at pickup and now I've lost my nerve. I also feel I have to be faithful as me and my ex still talk and she is stringing me along as if we might get back together. I know for me I've had to look at what limiting beliefs I picked up in the LTR that are not affecting trying to get back in the game. Sad to say, but when I got out of relationship a part of my self-worth and identity went with the girl. It's been hard to recondition myself to realize that I cannot hold her responsible for who I am as a man and what I choose to become. I haven't really figured it all out, but I know on some subconscious level the undealt shit that took place with the breakup plays into my AA and how I make approaches.

Anything you guys discover, kick down, as I find myself strugglin to get going again.