Hey guys...so I am not a PUA at all. I have had some descent luck with girls but nothing to write home about.

About 4 months ago...I connected with this girl that I had known for a while and she had just gotten out of a serious relationship. I wanted to cheer her up (the break up was really bad) so we went out with friends a couple of times. Things were going really well and I found out that I was starting to like her.

She got a hold of my number and started texting me. We were talking for a while...but I don't know if I came on too strong or what...but it all ended up stopping. Maybe I was looking for a long term and she wasn't. I am not even sure if I wanted a long term...but I just really liked her. We stopped talking for about 2 months and recently we have kind of reconnected.

I know that she thinks I am attractive and we flirt like crazy when we are together (especially after a few drinks).

But everytime we see each other...I feel like we're starting from scratch. I do bust her balls a lot...but I am not sure how to transition from that to go anywhere.

Guys any advice would be awesome.
Thanks

Ok man you got to control your feelings. You can't let those "i like her" emotions control you. Basically it's like this. Don't text her unless she text you. Wait the same amout of time before you text her back that it takes her to respond to you. Don't ask her out unless it is something you know she will enjoy. If you don't know if she will enjoy it or not then don't ask her out at all. You like her because she isn't easy. Period. You want a long term relationship because you think that is the only way you can get with her. Well your wrong. Just control your neediness.

Now I'm even going to go out on a limb. I'm going to assume that you are "liking her" because you feel like you can use her for comfort to make yourself feel better. If this is true then you are being needy, and neediness turns women off like cream cheese on a vagina. So you got to make yourself solid or at least control yourself so well that she never knows you need her.

Basically stop liking her. hahah. What a fucked up world we live in.

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holy crap....you pretty much summed me up. I wish I would've read this yesterday. I actually texted her to see if she wanted to grab a drink (I knew she would have a good time though) but she had dinner plans with a friend. I will not text her again...until she texts me.

Yah I am being needy....how to you get over this. Do I just kinda keep my distance or what?

We both have friends in common...so we will prob go out again some time soon with all of them. How should I behave. I was thinking about trying some of Gamblers Seduction techniques to see how those work. And to see if maybe I can spend the night with her again.

Go find other girls. Or become satisfied with being alone. It's all about keeping your cool and never asking for things. Always bring to the relationship. For example: When you ask her out, you are esentially saying PLEASE be with me! I NEED YOU! And that is not attractive. Now you can enjoy her company and flirt with her over text messages, but asking a girl out is something you do after she has come onto you for a long period of time. I am not a pick up artist either. My game takes a long time and is more about solidifying my inner self. I gave up on the bar/club scene a while back.

So anyway, yea you have to bring value to her life. You CAN'T do this with tricks and games. You have to actually become the person that she would benefit from. So figure out who you are. And figure out who she is. She probably sees you much different than you see yourself. I can just guess here, but if she comes from a good family she is probably very soild in who she is. Where you are needy which means you are lacking your soilidity. Which probably means your parental structure isn't as strong as hers. So if you want to get with a girl who is better than you structually then you have to become a man you never imagined yourself to be. You have to be willing to make scarifices that scare you. And you have to do it all in the pursuit of your GROWTH. The funny thing is... after you grow to be the man she sees herself with you won't want her anymore because you will have beaten the challenge. It's a catch 22. But I live for challenges and I think most men are the same way. Good luck on your growth.

You can try to get a role model who you aspire to be in your life. Someone close to you who can give you advice about women. There are not many people out there willing to be a role model to a compelete stranger for free. So you might have to look in places you never thought you would go. Like church. Thats the only place I can think of that has role models for free. Can you think of any? PUA's can't really be role models because of the physical disconnect. It's better if you get a role model that can help you with your specific issues. While I like DAVID D. i would consider him my dating doctor, I wouldn't consider him my role model. Because I want to be married and he doesn't believe in marriage.

There is only one REAL way to become not so needy. Basically in order to not be needy you have to figure out who you are. That is a hard question if you don't have a strong family structure. Or you want to aspire to be more than your parents amounted too.

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