Hi all,

My biggest (by far) weakness is approach. I just don't have the balls to go up to someone and start a convo. Theirs too many things flying through my head like what to say, what if I get rejected, what if I'm laughed at and looked at like an idiot, etc.

This has always been my biggest problem, which is why I turn to online sites to approach b/c it's just easier. Once I get the date, I seem to do fine.

The problem with online is the quality tends to be a lot of HB5-6,...nothing higher gets back to me and many girls are a waste of time online. On top of that, I think it's pathetic to meet women solely online. So...I'm looking for help on how I can improve myself in person with pick up.

Thanks!

First forget about online dating, never know who you are "really" talking to.

Second I hear ya about your AA. We all have it, even the mPUA's. The only way to get over the fear is to just do it. I know its easy to say just go approach that girl there, but it really is the only way.

Try talking to men first, since you are probably more comfortable talking to them. Make a comment about the game on the tv, about the girl at the bar etc.

Being more social will help you get over AA and for heaven's sake get off the computer and just get out of the house and talk to some women!

-Sunnyside

_________________
Wash, Rinse, Repeat.

I would suggest simply try getting a job in customer service at a grocery store or something it will force interaction, while you are getting money... another thing don't do shit over the internet its an excuse to meet manly women (women who are men or fakes) lastly, take it slow practice deliver a few openers on random people its about building comfort, find yourself, being calm.... I did the following an broke my AA forever... I had set goals for myself everyday... forced myself to achieve them for the first few days.. once when u taste the success it is motiviation... I took a month just delievering openers getting comfortable with them realizing it can be a great opener, but if u don't deliver it right... it won't matter...

It is a decision that you have to make. It sounds simple and it actually is. The hard thing is to carry it out. And to honestly make the right one.

You got to decide that you are more afraid of being alone for the rest of your life than approaching a girl.

_________________
I'm not trying to be a dick Ezo, but you're being a Pick Up Snob in my opinion.

bbardot: you just reminded me about porn

Forget on line dating. It could work for some I suppose but its a waste of money.
Speed dating is pretty good as the girls tend to be in the mood for a date and PUA can really put their skills to good use!

Dating picture profiles are usually older ones posted and some are blurred for a reason also you gotta ask yourself; if she is so great? Why can't she get hooked up and need to use an online service.

I mean what do you do online you just break the ice by sending them a message and wait for a reply. Ok, why not just approach a girl you like in a bar with an opener. The only difference is its happening now and you can see each other in person now which makes things easier as you can now exude your personality on them. Meet up with them on facebook later & then you can message them as much as you want!

_________________
He who dares wins!

First: Get out of your head.

You have to do the newbie mission. This is how I did it. AA will still be there, but not nearly as much as before! As good as gone compared to how it feels before you've done the mission.

Go around the mall just saying "Hi" to people. I know this is fucking hard, but you have to do it. Also stop pretty girls and just ask for directions, the time.. whatever. Now escalate into opinion-openers. You will get some bitchy attitude from some girls, but this is to be expected. Most of them will behave and talk to you. Now move onto mid-game.

Good luck

_________________
"Whenever you meet a beautiful woman, just remember somewhere there's a man who's sick of shagging her." -- Alfie

First: Get out of your head.

You have to do the newbie mission. This is how I did it. AA will still be there, but not nearly as much as before! As good as gone compared to how it feels before you've done the mission.

Go around the mall just saying "Hi" to people. I know this is fucking hard, but you have to do it. Also stop pretty girls and just ask for directions, the time.. whatever. Now escalate into opinion-openers. You will get some bitchy attitude from some girls, but this is to be expected. Most of them will behave and talk to you. Now move onto mid-game.

Good luck

_________________
"Whenever you meet a beautiful woman, just remember somewhere there's a man who's sick of shagging her." -- Alfie