Last night i was hitting on a HB6 doing my usual cocky/funny stuff and she was eating it up. Then her and her 2 friends wanted to take some shots, so they ask me what I want and I said tequila... And then we all stood there, awkwardly, as the girls were waiting for me to buy them the drinks. So I turned to the HB and told her that she should buy me a drink. Boy was that a big mistake! That just killed it... I could see the expression on her face change from happy to disgusted, she left me right then and there and went around telling all her friends (and my friends) how much of a cheap ass I was. To her it wasn't about the money (she was a lawyer), it was that she thought i had desrespected her. I saw her a few times later on that night but she wouldn't respond to any of my advances...

Now, I really didn't care about this girl, I ended up having a good night anyways, getting a couple digits and K-closing with a HB8... The whole situation pissed me off because it s something i get stuck in a lot: i know i should not buy a girl a drink at the bar, yet how can i say no and not have the girl think that i'm cheap? and better yet, how can i get a girl to buy me a drink?

haha well shes a bitch, put it like that

if you had that cocky/funny going the whole time and you had a big smile on your face when you told her to buy the shots, she should have gotten the message

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I think that was my problem... I DIDN'T smile. i said it kind of seriously. I ll work on it tonite...

I see no problem with telling her straight out "NO" why are u worried about this situation. Who cares if she got mad if she's making a huge scene like that going around calling u a cheap ass don't let that affect u.
I don't think she was into u at all she just wanted a free drink. What are you going to do next time buy her a drink so u can look like a complete Tool?

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So u think you can handle this?

wooooo it's been a long ass time since i visited this site (cause i was becomin a keyboard jocky, so i promised myself not to visit any pua site until i done some sarges, even though i still puss out on a lot of nights) anyways, back to U... i actually had 3 girls buy me shots, and 1 walking taco by playin 5 questions game w/ them, that game is money dont know if u tried it or not

Yeah well bring the focus off drinks and on sexuality or something else. Just because your in a bar you don't need drinks to be the main topic. Girls half the time only sip on a drink or two for the most part. So just look to the exit to the bedroom. Even if she bad mouths you people will think she's a bitch when they realize you weren't going to be used by her and she acted like a child.

easy lover

I didn't let the situation affect me at all, didn't really care about the bitch anyways since the bar was packed with single girls and I ended up doing well that night...

I just wanted to learn from this situation because i often find myself in a spot where i ve been mackin on a girl for a while, she diggs it, sends me IOIs back and expects me to buy her a drink. So my question was how to say no without cooling things off and sounding like a cheap bastard.

awesome avatar btw

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wusta

what is the 5 questions game? thanks for the help

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Ok, this was a shit test. And you responsed good with the NEG.....almost. You did a Sniper NEG by going for your target instead of using a Shotgun NEG to DLV the whole set. With that you telegraphed intrest since she wasn't isolated and you got blown out. Just a observation to keep in mind that will fine tune your game in the future.

Responses for the future:
After the pause implying you should be buying:
"Well? My time ain't cheap! I'm gonna need something to keep me here."
This response might get them teaming up on you. Sooooo time for the big NEG!
"OH! I SEE HOW IT IS! GET THIS *to bartender* THESE GIRLS ARE TRYING TO HUSTLE DRINKS! OMG! YOUR SUCH DORKS!" Then do a take away and say to yourself laughing "Haha, that's so funny. Me buy them...."
Wait for their reaction, either way you've saved your value, demonstrated AMOG, passed a shit test, showed scarcity, gained attention from those surrounding you.

The set might try to get you back and then you've got the hook point. But they might ask you to pay for your own. Acceptable, but a PUA would NEG them to makeup for their social 'faux pas' by buying him a drink. Or you could switch to Style's 5 Question game.

Holden

thanks for the input, it s really helpful and def something i ll try next time.
but what is the 5 questions game? just ran a search on this forum but couldn't find anything

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I don't be callin cause it's like Ex to Next kid
I know what I want, and just how to get it" Gang Starr

you ask her 5 questions and tell her she has to lie to each question...

1. whats your name?
2.whats your favourite colour
3. where were you born
4. shit.... was that the third question?

if she says yes you win, if she says no say... Ahh, dammit, you got me! bla bla bla,

5.you've played this game before havnt you - she'll most likely say no!

6 and HB(Hot Babe) should never be used in the same sentence
6= UG(Ugly)
raise ur standards man

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i would like to add to the 5 ? game and this always works

first 3 questions does not matter, but i usually avoid askin personal questions like whats ur favorite color, cause unless u know the answers to those personal ? b4 hand u can never know if shes lyin or not...especially when u r runnin this game at the begainin of the interaction.

b4 the game i go, "hey, have u ever heard of the 5 ?s game?" then "ok then we have to play it!"-----(style says something like i have a friend who is a bartender so they have all these bar bet games, and i learned it from him), shes goin to say "but I dont even know how to play!" u "its really easy, im goin to ask u 5 questions and u have to get them all wrong! but don't worry they are all easy questions" (u can ask her if she wants a practice ? first...they usually say no) then u go "but b4 we play we have to make a bet"---(i either let them decide what we should bet on or I tell them i.e. drinks)

the first 3 ?s i like to ask r what's 1+1 equal to (actually got a girl on this first 1 haha this is the walkin taco girl)... point to a table and ask what that is.... ask which bar u guys r in...whats on TV if the club has a TV, etc

the 4th question, u have to act confused, done by scratch ur head and say "wait... how many question was that" (got a girl on this 1 too, she even thought about it and still got her, thats what happens under pressure) what i also discovered is that ppl usually say 8, dont know y...

anyways the most important ? of them all, u have to do this 1 right or u will be buyin drinks! immediately after the 4th ?, SMILE, LOOK AT HER IN THE EYE LIKE U JUST LOST! (SHE WILL SMILE BACK B/C SHE THINKS SHE JUST GOT SOME FREE GOODIES! WHEN SHE DOES U KNOW U GOT HER) give her a little push on the shoulder and say "damn r u sure u havent played this game b4?" u know she havent and she cant deny that she has b/c u asked her b4 the game... all these movement in the 5th ? should happen with in seconds

AND THAT MY FRIEND IS HOW U MASTER THE 5 ? GAME!!!

i didnt know if it could work or not b/c when u know the game u think it will be obvious and no1 will fall for it, so i practiced it on 2 of my friends first (1 girl and 1 guy) and got them both, so if u dont know if u can pull it off, try it on some1 u know first haha i actually messed up once and acted i lost on the 4th question but still managed to pull it off b/c she smiled back and i know i got her

southerncross

glad to find another Cowboy Bebob fan! anyways, that night i was trying with every girl that was decent lookin at the bar, this one had a nice body but not a great face. Ended up n-closing with one of the hottest girls there anyways after she told me that I was the most fun guy around so it wasn't a bad night...

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I'm so damn good at question 4, that I get everyone on it 80% of the time...and everyone falls for number 5, EVERYONE.