Picked up a chick last night while bartending, hb7. We went to her house and banged (didnt go so well) strangely enough I couldnt get completely hard but I was able to bang her. It seemed like I could go all night without cumming too, which was very weird...

Anyways, we had sex then went to sleep, it was like 6 in the morning. Woke up around 1 and held each other, massaged, and kissed for about 40 min. Which then lead to more sex. However i went a little to deep and hurt her so we stopped. SHIT! I appoligzed and then we layed in bed for a little. Then I left..neither of us disscussed seeing each other after this but it did not come up.

We exchanged numbers but only becuase we had to find her phone and I called it with mine. I would have asked for it but didnt need to. Where should I go from here. We both disscussed how we like to just have fun and not be in a committed relaitonship. I want to see her again but dont want anything serious. Should I call her or txt her? Or wait for her? btw we go to the same school.

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When she's guessing, you're safe. When she thinks you're safe, you're dead.

Whatever happens dont just do nothing and wait to run into her at school. Take action before that happens.

so am I txting her? calling her? what..?

This is new to me

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Here's my advice. Since it was such a fast f-close, I will assume that there wasn't much comfort built, it was mostly attraction and lust. So the first thing you need to do is build some comfort so that she can consider you a fuck buddy. Definitely call, set up a meet in a casual way. Sorta like," so me and my friends are going to a bar, you should tag along." That way you can slowly build up the sexual tension again with playful flirting all night. Since she has already slept with you before, it should be easier to take her home again tonight. Just don't be too aggressive or too needy when you see her. Hope this helps.

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Yeah... what you want to do is wait if you text right away your setting a relationship frame if you wait like 4 days you set up a fuck buddy frame and that's what you want. I would take it from there and like meet once a week.

heres the update on the situation. tell me what u guys would do and think after this convo i had with her

pretty good stuff in these txts btw. I think..

some other info, when we were in bed she asked me not to say antyhign about this. (ull see why i mention this later in the txts)


I txted her yesterday joking about somehitng funny that happened the night we spent together and something reminded me of it. she responded and we talked about how the sex was bad since we were so drunk but how much she liked kissing me and how much she liked laying in bed talking. I said somehting like, "ya that was weird the sex was bad but i still had a good time with you"

Then she said shes concerned with this other guy (who is a friend of mine, but has a gf himself. I knew about this but i didnt think it was an issue since he had a gf) Then says that she had a fun night. I stear the convo away from talking about him and talked about the night (sex, kissing, how much condoms sucked). BTW while we were doing it she told me to take the condom off, but i said no. I think that was somewhat of a neg and DHV? am i right? Then she said how she usually doesnt do stuff like this.

She worried that I thoguth she was a ho, I said " i dont think ur a ho, u just know what you like. there is nothing wrong with sex with people that you are attracted to. "

They she says that this prolly wont help her rep if she wants to get together with my friend. I then again steared the convo away from it and got her laughing about some stuff we did.

Then it goes awry..

Her: uh so i hate to ask but have ya told anyone about what happened like john (my friend)or someone who could tell him? He was acting funny before that day and even more since then it seems. althought i might just be paranoid.

ME: no not at all

HER: I know you said you wouldnt but tine (her friend) was all like "u know hes gonna tell his friends and john's gonna find out..." so thanks, hes just all over the place and i have no idea how he would react if he found out.
HER :do you have class tomorrow?

ME: I didnt tell anyone nor do i plan on telling anyone. why would I? ya i got class

HER: who knows u boys like to talk more than girls someitmes. plus i dont really know u or how much u talk to those guys. way i see it is why wouldnt you?

ME: U asked me not to and i said i wouldnt. bottom line
ME: im not 16 i dont go around bragging about girls i slept with ( i liked that one)

HER: i like to believe more people behave like adults than actually do so i didnt mean to offent u at all. But i appreciate it so thank you anyway i need to turn off my phone and take a nap.lol have to study some more for an exam i have tomorrow,booo

ME: ive said it before. im just out to have fun, enjoy life and not complicate my life. if ur up for the same stuff then id like to get to know u better n if not then no biggie.

Her: haha i second that! i have to be straight with u tho. for the time being if we hang out i need to keep my pants on. at least until i figure out what the deal is with me and john. i dont need to make things more complicated than they already are

HER:but ya i would like to get to know you better too.

HER: alright dude im fading. my messy bed and caseless pillow are waiting for me (inside joke) Hit me up tomorrow or sometime this week.

ME: u know what im about n u got my num. u want to hang out let me know. if not,thats cool too, no worries

it was like 3am at that point.

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i think im gonna play it cool and not even think about him. Just see if she wants to go out drinkin this weekend and then move it back to her house.. yah?

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heh. interesting conversation. I didn't like her grilling you about who and what you talk about. She chose to sleep with you, end of story.

As far as her mentioning that she needs to keep her pants on, I probably would have laughed and said, "hah, can't get much worse. I already took them off "

She'll definitely sleep with you again. It just seems that she has your friend on her brain. Fuck it out of her.