So ur in a club, watching this total hot chick. U like her soo much. But ur affraid to go over to talk to her. why?

A- u dont know what to say
B- u dont know who u are suppost to be arround her
C- u are affraid she might get a strange look and humiliate u infront others
D- if she wanted to talk to you, you dont know what do do next


all this implies on you not having a map in your head of what would you do with a girl except fucking her in the ass.

Approach rule no. 1
HAVE AN OUTCOME

The most important thing to have is an outcome. All women say they want a man that knows what he wants. So know it. Most guys dont. Most guys just wing it and go: "gees I hope this is going to turn out fine." Before you go into a set, have your outcome in mind. What do you want to do with a girl or a set? Do you want to say something to them, ask them a question or just say hi and tell them they have a great energy
Plan how you are going to end the interaction. "oK girls, i gotta go back to my friends, take care "

Approach rule no. 2
PLAN YOUR RESPONSE TO THE WORST CASE SCENARIO

One of the reasons why we are affraid to go there is because we have not planed how will we respond, if the things dont go our way.
If you want to apprach fearlessly and with total confidence, you need to think what is the worst thing that can happen if I approach a girl. Than, after you`ve done this, scale it on a 0 to 10 scale of how painful that might be.
Now, make a decision if you accept this worst case scenario. If you dont accept it, stop approaching girls.
If you do, plan how you are going to respond to this scenario. Phisicly, Mentally, Emotionally. Plan it in detail. Rehearse it.


My personal example is one time i saw this girl and she was so cute, i approached her and she blew me off.. i totaly lost my composure and didnt want to do that anymore.
Now that ive planned what am i going to do and how am i going to feel if she blews me off and what am i going to think made my approaching a lot more enjoyable.

Even if she turns me down, I say ok to myself, you did good, you are the man, the feeling that i trigger inside of me is pride cus i approached her, masculine feeling cus i have the balls to go to her,
and i just smile, amplify my feelings and talk to another girl.

So plan how you are going to respond if she blews you off.

Approach rule no. 3
BE IN A STATE

If you are going to talk to a girl, make sure you are in a good mood. How do you do that? Do you remember a time, when you felt absolutely unstoppable? When you felt sexy and bad?
Self talk or the way you talk to yourself is key for your good mood. Learn to direct your mind on opportunities and learn to create meaning out of every situation that will empower you.
Some easy ways to get into state: Listen to your favor music and dance, think about 10 things why you like yourself and why you are most proud of yourself.

Approach rule no. 4
OBSERVE THE SITUATION

A really common mistake guys make when approaching girls is they go in not knowing what the fuck is going on arround them. They are so in their heads that they trip even before talking to that girl.
Before you go to approach a girl, observe the surroundings a little bit. Look at where you are going to stand, look at her and see if you can pick a comment out of a situation. Lets say she has a green drink in her hand. you can walk up and go: "I heard only evil people drink green drinks. Are you one of them"... or whatever..

Approach rule no.5
PLAN

Lets say you approached a girl, and she turnes arround and says: "Oh my god, ur like soo cool. I want to hang arround you soo much!!"
What now?

Aha.. I tricked you. No. one fear of approaching is we dont have a plan what to do next after a girl likes us. What, are you gonna take her to the bush and "do your thang "
NO. Plan what would you do, if a girl liked you. Where would you go, how would you feel, what would be on your mind instead of just "fuck her fuck her fuck her fuck her.. in the ass"



Approach rule no. 6
NEVER APPROACH IN A NEED

Jim rohn said it best: "Don't bring your need to the marketplace, bring your skill. If you don't feel well, tell your doctor, but not the marketplace. If you need money, go to the bank, but not the marketplace."
So im going to say a similiar thing. "Dont bring your need to women. If you need pussy, pay a prostitute, dont approach women"

Why? Women have radar for these things. If you need pussy and you are horny as shit, ur not going to be effective at approaching.. because you want something from her not to give something to her.
Women want you to give them that sense of security and masculinity and power, not needines and weakness. So be strong, feel strong. And fuck a prostitute if you dont have any other option. Because as
long as you are not strong and needy women will not want to be arround you.

Approach rule no. 7
KNOW WHO YOU ARE

Most guys when they approach a girl, they get so anxious that they literally forget who they are. They dont have any boundaries and they forget what they are good at. So right before you go into a set, think about
a thing that you are the best at. And feel proud at it. Remember who you are!
Thats it for now. Keep tuned for some new rules of approaching.

Black Fantom

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Nice post.

Great advice cheers

when you get blown off is there anything you can say or any body language you can do, or should you just walk away and pretend it didn't happen? Thanks, also great post!

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Thanks man. Great Post!

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Oh god, I liked this article up until I reached this point.
Do not pay a fucking prostitute to have sex with you!, use your pickup skills to get that pussy. The thing is you can be strong, masculine and horny simultaneously, don't frame it as, "I'm horny.. I need pussy!" but rather "I'm horny and ready for pussy!". The needyness and weaknesses stem from other flaws in your game, such as coming across as creepy. Her "radar" will see it more as, "I like the sexual energy about this man, I want to fuck him".

His example of paying a prostitute was joke. His point is excellent though.

What is important is for people to perceive that you already have what they have to offer you. This puts them at a disadvantage. There is nothing better than going to a job interview when you already have a job. Your aura is completely different. Even the way you construct your sentences is different. You don't come across as needy. This translates to pick-up as well.

I know a lot of girls, so when I hit on another girl it immediately cuts through the bitch shield. They are disarmed because they do not sense that they have anything that I need, and therefore, have nothing to protect. I’d take a horrible female wingman over a good male wingman any day of the week. It says I'm pre-selected, safe, and not in immediate need of the target’s pussy. Little do they know that only the first of those is true

Yea actually there is. What ur gonna need is ur visualisation here. When ur alone in ur room, think of a situation that could happen if you apprach a girl.

Lets say u go talk to a girl and she goes "get the fuck out of here!"

First, ur gonna want to rehearse ur mental response. This is your meaning that you ascribe to the situation when she blews you off. Think of what does the same situation mean besides only "she doesnt like me, im a loser, girls dont like me"STOP.
Think about you and your path, think about that finally this is the begining of your journey as a pua, that every pua had to overcome this, so I should feel proud because I had the balls to go over to her. 99% of the guy will not approach(which is statistically true!) unless they are drunk.
Than think about that it probably isnt about you. Probably she had a bad day or every other drunk guy is approaching her and getting on her back. If you two would meet at a different setting she would respond differently- like in a park or on a game.


Second, ur gonna want to rehearse ur emotional response. Normally, you would feel horrible, humiliated, angry or whatever.

But instead, as soon as she does her bitch thing, you go into yourself and trigger that feeling of proudness cus u talked to her, a powerfull feeling because you can withstand this kind of response, You start to feel love towards her because she at least had a response. But you genuenly have to feel those emotions.

Than, after you trigger all of those emotions, plan how youre gonna respond with your body. What is the expression on your face going to be, how are you gonna smile, how are you gonna turn your head full of proudness and power, how are you gonna walk away. Plan where are you going to go. Have an escape exit plan.


You can rehearse this with a buddy or alone in a room with a coat hanger
It doesnt matter, as long as you make it seem real. Try to really see what would happen first. How would you feel, what would you do, what would you think.
Its good to writte it too.

But here is my guarantee. If you do this, with repetition, you will have what is called accelerated learning. What this means is ur gonna learn faster and it will work like a snow ball effect. In couple of days you can literally approach any girl you see walking on a street.

Try it. You got nothing to lose.

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Some of you guys are... confused. 7 rules is a hell of a lot. Calculating possible things she might say and how to react doesn't work. EVER. Trust me, you can only predict someone you know pretty well; strangers will always throw you a curve. You guys are just compiling information and analyzing and fantasizing and pretending like you're doing something productive.

Going into it horny is a great idea if your objective is to take her home and rip her clothes off like an animal. It will color your interaction, she'll sense it and respond. If you masturbate or whatever beforehand, you're taking off your own drive, what makes you a man. If you dry hump strangers when you're horny, then you DO need to take it down. Otherwise, use that sexuality, it will separate you from the other guys who are too mellowed out.

I agree with rule 1, keep your eye on the prize. Everything else will take you out of the game and keep you in your head the whole night. Analyze later, act now.

great post couldn't have siad it better myself.

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nice post Black Fantom.

i also noticed your signature, bruce lee fan i see lol

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Ace Post!

Why do you even post? How can anyone take you seriously when you actually type like a teenage girl? Gain some literacy please, what is with the mundane garbage being peddled around these forums? Go read a book, take a literature class, learn to write, and don't come off as ignorant and then maybe someone might listen to you.

thx that helped alot