I could do with some advice on how to handle a rather sensitive issue, I can't really be direct and open about this with her, as she suffers from depression and is the most self concious person that I've ever met.

The issue is, that since we've been together, she's put on about 14 pounds of weight, and while I'm aware that this makes me sound like a bastard ultimately I like really her and would like to make this relationship work, but I feel like I'm becoming less attracted to her, and of course in any relationship there must be a large degree of physical attraction.

She is aware of this herself, and as such is constantly seeking reassurance that she isn't fat... which puts me in a difficult position.

She was in good shape when we first got together, however now things have changed, her lifestyle is pretty sedentary as she'll often laze around all day while eating crap.

I've tried to encourage her to take up a sport to help her feel more energetic and she just said she'd think about it, basically no.

I don't know how to press this issue without sounding too nasty, if she continues to just sit around all day eating candy and chocolate then she's going to grow more and the point will come where I don't feel enough attraction to continue the relationship, I don't want this to happen, I want her to return to the hot healthy girl I met and fell for (only a few months ago).

Haha cool.. Okay do this first take a walk at the park with her 3 times a week. Just hold hand play around and just take walks. Then propose doing things together like taking some dance lessons, or playing some game, or going bike riding but all of it TOGETHER. One it would be quality time spent as a couple plus she would get her exercise too.

Wow that sucks.

Get her a WII Fit or WII Sports and get her addicting to playing it

Have wilder, longer sex

Dump her fat ass.

The best thing you can do (I know this from experience) Is to lead by example. My gf is by no means over weight but at one point I noticed she was beginning to gain weight...Like most young college women she was prtying, eating crapy foods, and was not working out. What happend? she gained about 10lbs the span of the 6 months I was with her.

I have always worked out and watched what I eat so rather than me be an ass hole and tell her "you have gained weight dont be lazy" I started living a healthy life style again...I cut back my drinking and rarly eat fast food or junk food....what she asks why? or says lets get pizza I respond "no thanks Im trying to loose a few pounds and be healthy, Im gunna make some chicken and rice"...when she says Lets hang out at 7, you can say "Lets hang out at 8 Im gunna head to the gym but we will hang out after" this shows your gf that a healthy life style is important to you! rather then making her feel bad by ignoring her just take up new hobbies like working out, playing sports, and she will soon see that you want to be in shape...most women will get the hint with out you saying any thing.

Also If she gets mad at some point and says "you think Im fat dont you" or "I feel fat" dont get mad just stay calm, dont agree or disagree just say hun I think you beautiful and I would love it if you started working out with me, joging with me ect ect...Tell her that being healthy is a big part of your life not and tell her it makes you feel more confedent and good about your self. why? because it will get her excited about geting in shape.

I now have my gf coming to the gym with me and doing weight and cardio about 3 times a week...also she has really started to watch what she eats....she has her good and bad days! some times she will go a week with out touching any junk food and then other days she will stuff her face with all kinds of crap! lol but its a great start and she has lost all of the 10lbs she while dating me...im trying to get her more involved in sports and eating well but it takes time.

P.s in the beginning she will prob be intimidated, uncoordinated, and perhaps not like it much...give it time! after about a month of working out with weight and cardio my gf started to get alot strong, she started to notice her arms and legs were more tonned and she was able to do alot more! this motivated her! the first say I took her to work out she had trouble doing 12lbs dumbells for bench, she couldnt do suates or any thing really....very uncoordinated! I got frustrated because she was so weak and I felt like she was not trying...I learned that you have to take things slow until her body adapts to what you are doing! I started her off with light weight 12-15 reps....now after about 2 1/2 months of working out she is killing it! she puts up 30lbs a hand for 8 reps on dumbell bench press, she can do dead lifts and squats very well! she curls 15lb dumbells!

Its amazing to see somone transform them self and Im proud of her!