I tend to not give her much after we argue.
After we argue, I just leave her alone and let her come to me.
Keeping alpha constantly and keeping a strong frame, good basis for a PUA right?
When we fight, we talk about it, its never 100% better straight after right? we can never go back straight away and be all jolly like when were not fighting. Sorry's are exchanged, but if were fighting over phone or internet, i cant hug or kiss her to make everything better, so were still kinda cold.
In this stage i just leave her alone because we've established everything's fine. This way she misses me more, and I keep control of the situation

I've always thought this is the way to go, until I realised she started to become a little more needy and that we would fight because 'i don't care that were fighting' because I'm keeping a strong frame.

What are your thoughts on this. I know there's not a step-by-step guide with rules and restrictions for PUA's but I'm just curious on what you guys do, the results, and what you think is the best thing to do is.

Cheers!

Relationships require an ever-increasing level of investment. Women are acutely aware of this and it sounds like your girlfriend is reaching the point where she feels like it's time for you to invest further, meaning at some point you will have to decide whether it's more important to be "right" according to PUA standards or happy.

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Being a PUA is good for pick up. You're in a relationship, pick up rules don't apply.

Then what are the rules for a releationship...?

Im exactly like this too, try to keep a strong frame etc etc, only reason i do it is cos of the pua stuff and the fact i dont wanna be needy etc etc n lose her.

But shes catching onto it now n says im "cold" "abit distant" sooooo what ive done is invested more "tell her all the soppy stuff" and just acted naturally and how i want to act in the relationship.

This are great and she prefers it much more when im not trying to put on a strong frame or be too alpha to give a shit.

Yep totally agree PUA rules do not apply to relationships and could spoil them.

Yes of course. i agree.
Technique and game don't have a place in a relationship. However, aspects can be derived from it and implemented into relationships.
If its not used correctly, everything can fall apart because the lady may take it the wrong way where it wasn't made to do so

This thread was aimed at finding out what other people do, what works and what doesn't. Yes, every girl is different, but we can be the judge and decide what is best for our ladies.

oh ok, well i used to do what your doing, now im more like "this is dumb what are we argueing over silly things for" and we have a lil chat n come into agreement that we are both being stupid or over sensitive" or i would just say "im sorry but......" and explain where your coming from and show her you understand how she is seeing things too.


For the serious arguements im not too sure, havent had any of them yet but one thing i remember is not to let the past effect present or future because one of the quotes i live by now is "Yesterday's fact is today's BS"

The biggest rule of a relationship is being yourself. If a girl doesn't accept who you are and you have to continually be a PUA, you're not supposed to be in a relationship. In The Game, Style even says being a PUA makes it impossible to have a girlfriend, they aren't compatible because PUA is somehow not the honest you. That's about all I know, I'm not really a relationship guy. Me and my girlfriend just broke up because I felt like I didn't have enough say in the relationship, I wasn't really the man and that doesn't jibe with who I am.