| Here is my take on dating online and on your profile. Some men will disagree but what I'm doing works for me and if I can help a brother out, so much the better.
Women go online looking for Mr. Right. They're not looking for Mr. OK, or Mr. I'll-Settle-For-Less, they're looking for Mr. Perfect. Online dating is a fantasy. A lot of women go online just out of sheer boredom. Some are aggressive daters because they feel the biological clock ticking. Most women are in between.
I'm not saying that you need to be perfect in order to get dates, but you at least must not do things that disqualify you completely from consideration. Your profile is kind of a boring read. It rambles on about stuff that isn't that interesting. There's nothing in there that gives me a sense of your personality spark. You don't really convey confidence and strength. You DLV yourself a few times. The Internet is not the place to be self-deprecating. In fact, there is no place in our world for someone who is self-deprecating. Exude confidence. Leave an air of mystery. Talk a good game but make them work for the real details. Pepper your profile with funny, cocky/slightly taunting and over the top language. Give them one truthful and truly interesting thing to hook their imagination. The rest is just entertainment, but that's most of what girls surfing profiles want.
If you read most women's profiles, they say they are looking for someone "funny," or "with a sense of humor" or some other thing like they want to be entertained. Translate that from girl-talk into normal speech and what they are saying (at least for the girls who will actually go out and meet guys vs. just sending endless emails) is they want someone who communicates effectively and who is going to lead them confidently through a series of positive fun experiences. There's nothing in your profile that establishes your strength, confidence and wit, as well as your dominance among other males. Just looking at the words in your profile, you kind of fade into the background of thousands and millions of other profiles that are just "nice guys" who aren't very interesting. Also, use language that has a sexual subtext. The best ones are very subtle innuendo - statements that appear harmless but then the girl reads them and they think, hey that was actually kind of sexual. Don't be gross about it, just be slightly off enough to make someone backup and say "Did I just read that correctly?"
Now the photos - The pimp hat and makeup appears to be peacocking but it's just creepy, dude. Maybe it's because it looks like you took the picture in front of your closet instead of in a slammin' club?? And with Bisexual in your status I immediately go to the "child molester" place in my mind. That picture and your Bisexual status are not congruent with the rest of your personal, from what I can see. I have talked to MANY women who feel threatened that they will lose their men to other guys. Several have described it as their "biggest fear" when it comes to relationships. I know gay and bisexual people have made big strides in mainstream life, and that with younger people it's much more acceptable, it's still a double standard - it's much more acceptable for women to be bi than men.
Your look can communicate a gender fluidity without stating it as such. Your look could be androgynous if that's the message you want to convey, but leave an air of mystery. Take a look at any rock and roller and your bound to find a guy who look like he would fuck anything that moves. But most of these guys are 100% girl-focused men. Be careful about labels. They can work against you. I think it's much better to keep people guessing about your personal life.
You otherwise look well groomed, but you're a stocky guy - not saying you need to be deceptive, but pick the photos that best flatter your physique and communicate value in other ways. Of the photos you have posted, I like the one in the abandoned warehouse and the one in your kitchen. Nix the other ones.
Summary:
Be interesting
Be unique
Be strong and confident
Be 100% man
Never apologize
Never self-deprecate
Telegraph sexuality
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