heres a summary of the convo

(me) yeah, you seem cool we should hang out sometime

(hb) Lol we should....what school do you go to?

(discussed what school we go to)

(me) so what are you doing after school 2mm?

(her) I'm going to my friends house

(me) ok im pretty busy the rest of the week but friday is good so how about we do something fri or sat whichever is good for you

(her) Imma let you know


ok i need some help here how can i set up this date without sounding to needy throwin dates back and fourth? or asking when shes available just to get another i'll let you know because we all know they never mostly ever let you know lol


thanks,
Jayhem



***update**

i was talking to another girl and got the same response when she couldnt make it for a day 2 here is the summary

(her) hi hun im sorry i cudn't chill w| u today, i was at church nd stuff.. ya tu sabe lol

(me) Ha, dnt wrry about it. Free you schedule up for sat and we'll go do something =D

(her) k, i'll let u kno

this dreaded i'll let you know is becoming a recurring problem lol

ps. for people who dont speak spanish "ya tu sabe" means "you already know"

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I'm not a PUA, just getting into the game. Here is my opinion, take it how you want.

A - Don't show a reaction that you are disappointed when she says "I'll let you know". stay up beat, and keep the conversation rolling. This shows her actions don't effect your mood, and that you're stable emotional. aka why girls say they like "Strong and silent" types.

B - Change your outings to somewhat group outings. Make it sounds as if she's being included/given the privilege to do something fun. AKA "My friends and I are going to (amusement park, club, concert, comedy show, and so on) it's going to be awesome. You should come out". Even if she says "I'll let you know", it will show you'll be having fun regardless. Also it helps to plan stuff on the day you want to do something with her. It makes you look more scarce. Sure you might flake on her if she does commit to hanging out, BUT it also shows you don't wait on HER. You have your own life to lead. I've had good success with this as the girls stop saying "I'll let you know" and start saying "Definitely!" because they know from the past I plan stuff if they don't commit to me. So if they decide to do go out with you, and you're like "sorry you didn't get back to me soon enough." Then you're still out there, while they are figuring out what to do for fun that night.

That's all I can think of for now. Good luck broski.

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great thanks for the info will definitely try it out

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i think you're being too vague about it. she cant let you know if she's going to hang out with you if she doesnt know what you're doing.

be a man about it. "friday or saturday" makes it seem like you're free on teh weekends. don't be. create your world. welcome her to it. don't create a world around the girl.

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"I let you know" ="I am not that interested in you" Its really that simple. Raise her interest in you and you won't get such a reply.

I am going to agree with Spread Love Ders that you are being a bit too vague... also I wouldn't ask her to chill, but instead just tell her what you two are going to do. My best example of what I am trying to say is this:

I had met a girl I was interested in hanging out with again. Instead of asking her if she would like to, I called her up and said, "This Friday night I am going to pick you up at 7pm and we are going to go to my friend _______'s house. He's having some people over and it's going to be a blast!"

Before she even agreed to coming with me, which she did, she felt the need to acknowledge the fact that I didn't ask her. she actually said, "I love the way you just told me what we are going to do! Of course I'll go!" It shows you know what you want and you get it. It shows you take initiative.

If you do that and she can't make it, make it sound like she is going to miss out on the greatest thing in the world, but don't show you are negatively effected: "Ahh well that's too bad! It's going to be awesome! My friend _______ is the absolute funniest person you will ever meet!" It shows that with or without her you are going to have a good time with your cool friends.

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Yeah I guess there is an order of priority of the way you ask out depending on what's available to you, and how short the timeframe is to get her attention.

At the highest end, there's some big to-do you're attending, and she can come along. At the lowest end, she's gonna dissapear and you got a few seconds to just tell her you like her and want to get to know her better - and set up an exact time and place to meet.

Somewhere in the middle (which is usually where you'll be) is YOUR'E going to be doing something, and you're letting her know she should come along.

One I like is clothes shopping (you can lie) that's a good one cause you can say you need a girl's advice, you don't even have to buy anything, when you get there and you're trying stuff, you can talk about how you need to look around and get more ideas, but make sure you give positive response to the advice she gives - maybe it's helping you get a better idea. So after you've had a look around, if you really dont' want to buy anything, you can say it was good, and you are gonna think about choosing between x and y. Then of course do something else or set up another day.

Never make a day 2 about her, NEVER!!!

And like people said dont react when she says maybe/I'll see ect , WHY? Because you have other plans.


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hey guys, after months of gaming, im really to finally to cure my oneitis and call that girl out. how do i call her out for a date? (i want just her and me only)

I totally disagree, I've gotten dates this way. Nothing wrong with it - you are the man, you are taking control and doing what you like. Girls like to be swept off their feet.

I just think it shows to much intrest and can can result to flaking, it just puts to much pressure on her. Thats how i feel, I'm 16 though, This way works better for me though, I'v never really been into the hole asking a girl out thing, but that might change later on.

ive got day 2's in the past and one set-up next by going for coffee, gives a great excuse to bounce. also i stay in control for example if she says "sure meet you at starbucks?" i'll say no, i dont like starbucks we're going to Costa (another coffee place)

Also for the OP i have found that asking if she is free on a certain day is bad way to go, if she says no, what happens? you ask for the next day if says shes busy then, you ask for another day and it looks way to needy, like this:

Example:

Are you free on Friday? - Sorry girls night out
Saturday? - cant do saturday, family meal [or whatever]
Sunday? - Maybe i'll let you know

THIS is better:
You: When are you free? Her:- Sunday afternoon
You: I'm quite busy this weekend, i'll let you know soon.

done you can get back to her in an hour or so and say i am free sunday, i think we go (where-ever). then also it makes it seem like her idea.

just my 2c

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Or you could also say.

"I have wednesday and friday free, which ones better?"

presuming u ask her on a Sunday or something. I think you get the idea.

i haven't been on in a while, no computer. Now im back and i wanted to thank everyone for you're advice!

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