A girl i liked was about a 8/10, and had a HUMONGOUS(sp?) ass. I never really liked a girl this much. So what did i do? i texted her like all day and basically bugged, and then she got a boyfriend. I'm over it though theres other fish in the sea. Now im never going to do that again, at first i thought it was the correct thing to do. Now it wasnt like i didn't know this girl, i'm 100% sure she liked me before and then lost interest. New strategy= do not text often, and not show as much interest.

texting too much or calling too much can be a killer. it's good you have learned that lesson. you have to keep some contact so not forgotten but at the same time you have to leave them wanting more. it's like if you chat to a girl on msn/yahoo; you don't want to say hello the moment they pop online. it screams "needy". normally once i get to where i chat with a girl i almost never say hi first again. i'll have to ask "why don't you ever say hi first" but it seems they work harder to know me.

YOu have to give the girl some space... she´ll come to you if that´s what she wants

I made the same mistake with the first girl I was ever involved with. Then the second. Then the third. Took me three times making the same mistake to realize. And I'm 100% sure all of them were interested before I started texting so much. This obsessive behaviour is the reason I'm a virgin. I've learnt now though. So let's think of this as a good thing. We're much wiser now.

I'm a little late on this posting but I stick with the 50/50 comm rule when communication with woman. I text or call them first and then they are suppose to call/text back. Very rarely do I call/text them a second time in a row if they don't respond and that second text/call I normally try to put them on the spot for not getting back with me. Anything more than that then you look too needy and girls don't like that.

Also, wait at LEAST 2 hours if you can before texting/calling them back if they do text/call you and leave a message. This builds up suspense and curiosity.

But DO be patient. Sometimes I won't get a text back from a girl until a week later and that is ok. Anything longer than two weeks, I delete their phone number out of my cell.

Ironically, if you truely don't care about the girl getting back with you, it makes them want you more...

Best,

J-Dub

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You need to be a good player if your gonna be successful at the game.

Was her ass good or bad?

Well I'll just agree with everyone else posting here - learn to be patient. It is SO tempting to fire off emails, and sms/texts immediately. Depending on the context it's often best to take time out and think before you reply.

There's a good suggestion from Carlos Xuma - write your text or email but DO NOT send it , instead save it to your drafts and take a few minutes break. Return to the text/email and re-read, and you may spot some stuff like neediness in there.Edit if necessary and do it again.

Also learn to reply randomly to any communication. Sometimes reply instantly, sometimes give it an hour sometimes leave it a day. Keep her guessing...

Shortstop don't worry as this is very easy to forget and make mistakes - I've just fucked up the chance of an almost certain f-close by doing a similar thing.

Yeah, you should always call or text at a 1:1 ratio. Unless you're excited and you have some REAL news. If you're always the last one to text, that's a problem, there's lots of things that just don't need a response. I always text/call back within ten minutes. I don't want to miss opportunities and I think the "responding too fast means you're too available" is a myth.

Sometimes a girl has you on her mind and is on the fence about doing something with you and will fire off a nonchalant text like "What are you up to?". If you wait two hours to respond, the moment has passed, whereas you could've gotten to the root of what she really wanted if you made yourself available and responded at the time. Some girls will also get really pissed if you consistently put them off for hours.