I know this should prob be under "relationships" in the forum but apparently I don't have anough posts to post there. Sorry to anyone that really cares.

Anyway, so i've been hanging out with, not officially dating, having sex with this chick for about 2 months now. Its been low key....not too much talking on the phone, just meeting up, going on dates, texting etc.

Earlier yesterday afternoon I find out she FB messaged my roomate saying that she had an amazing dream about him then proceeds to ask him how long he will be living in town for. Props for my roomate for letting me know...

Then I get a text last night with the token "Lets just be friends, what do you think?".

So how do I reply? Do I ask her for an explanation on why we should just be friends when we were having a good time? Do I bring up the fact that she messaged my roomate?

I just don't want to sound like a needy, butt-hurt guy, over some chick, but at the same time I think I would look even weaker if I sat back and just said OK without asking for a legit explanation.

Thoughts?

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"Will you please stop flirting with me? You're making everyone here really uncomfortable"

Well if you haven't responded to this yet, let's here what you think about it.

Are you willing to drop the sex and 'dates' and just be friends?
Are you into her a little more than you lead on and don't like the idea of just being friends?
Does it bother you she may be dropping you for your roommate?
What does your roommate think about this? Is he going to go for her?

I think those are some factors to think about before responding. Those would have been the first thoughts running through my head if I were you.

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"Vincit Qui Se Vincit"

Yes yes yes and yes to all of those. I mean I can find other girls. I just usually don't EVER let myself get emotionally involved with any of them. This chikc is one of the exceptions. I am willing to be friends, but then in turn I don't want her creeping around trying to hang out with all my friends. and no, my roomate is not going to go for her, he is much more of a friend to me than that.

I guess I really have no control over what she does once we become just friends. and she clearly already has her mind made up that just friends is what she wants. I think i'll just go ahead and ask her for a straight answer why. she owes me at least that.

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"Will you please stop flirting with me? You're making everyone here really uncomfortable"

you should know there are quite a lot of girls out there. sex is sex. you can have with any other girl.... she's not that special.

let her go. do you want to be the guy who gets mad because she thinks youre not fun or do you want to be the guy who doesnt care and calls up some other girl to chill with her?