I need some advice on how to handle the use of a skill to enhance my game. I'm a violinist and I know lots of fun, accessible tunes from all around the world. I'm very animated and passionate when I play, but for some reason I only seem to get two reactions when I play:
1. A girl will, on occasion, find it extremely attractive and will be very forward.
2. Most girls tend to withdraw and become very shy and uncomfortable.

This didn't happen when I was less skilled and showed less passion as I played- back then all my responses were positive (though the fewer positive responses I get now are greater in magnitude). I suspect I may be overqualifying before I even talk to anyone- the girls I get good responses from are usually 9s or 10s, but lots of 8s and virtually all 7s seem uncomfortable around me after I play. I have no problem gaming any number if I haven't played anything. Actually, I usually get better reactions from simply speaking passionately about music rather than actually playing something. Once I play, I think I'm setting my value too high too quickly. Girls with less self esteem might assume that I get so much female attention from my skill (I don't) that they'd never stand a chance with me (they do).

Am I making myself too much of an entertainer? I imagine that if a girl thinks I'm -too- good, they'll see it is a big boundary between us, like I'm part of another world. I definitely get the impression that many of the girls I speak to feel insecure in their own skillset and thus seeing someone with a very tangible, socially valuable skill brings those insecurities to the surface (I get lots of this: "Oh, I play a little (instrument), but I'll never be as good as you...")

How do you use your skills to improve your game? How would you/do you use music?

I don't know man.. playinig the violin is great and artistic.. but where do you exactly show off your skill?? if you do it at the wrong location you'll come off as trying to hard or even "weird".

Play the violin in musical events or at home.. but you dont want to be that guy on the train playing the violin... or anything! Just talk about music, and don't ever try getting girls by showing off skill besides conversation and dancing (in clubs).. it comes off as trying to hard... thats a big turnoff

I generally play at open-mics, jam sessions at parties (every party has a jam session on my campus) or in the quad, but if I'm in a place where it would be weird to just start playing a violin (like the quad), I make sure I have an audience/accompanist before I set out. If I've already got friends listening to me, I'm not that "weird guy" who just sets up shop and waits for people to come to him, I'm the focal point of my social circle. If I have a guitarist with me, we're just two buddies jamming outside.

I've definitely noticed that the violin is not something you can just whip out and play. Location has never been the problem for me, the issue is really the change in responses I've gotten as my skills have improved.

oh i see.. Well if you attract musician girls.. try setting up a private session to see if you could put something together or learn about stuff. thats how i'd go about it.. if your passionate about music then it would really come off as genuine and just not a reason to bang her....