Welcome to the forum and to the community.

First off, Jon doesn't sound like a very good friend. If you tell him to stop being such a douche when you guys are in a set, he should respect that. You don't have to sound insecure about the whole thing, just be direct with him. Tell him, "I can't be friends with someone who puts me down, especially in front of girls." I know that you said that not being his friend isn't an option, but if you feel strongly about the way that he's treating you, you need to stand a firm stance on this... it's time to play hardball. Maybe if you start to spend less time with him, on top of telling him what the deal is, he'll get the hint that he's being an asshat.

(BTW, you asked me to help you resolve this in a subtle manner... I don't do subtle very well... all of my friends will agree with me on that.)

My question to you is that if have such a great girlfriend, what are you doing picking up other girls?

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Thanks for the response! It sure is one hell of a community with all the advice!

This is the only real aspect of him that pisses me off. I've talked to him in a similar way before, however I wasn't straight forward with it, so I'll have to do that.

Also, are there any good, 'friendly' AMOG tactics that you may know of? I've done some searching, but all the things I've found are the opposite of that. I suppose if I have to be hardball about this, I will. Because the way he's playing this shit, is ridiculous.

The way I've been 'picking' up girls lately is just all in a friendly manner. Nothing my girlfriend is bothered by. I have to keep practicing my game, even if it is on a small level.

If you're talking about how to confront your friend, I would strongly suggest being very direct with him and letting him know that this is something that really bothers you and that he's putting your friendship on the line.

If you're talking about being alpha in general, I have to stress that you don't need to be an a-hole to be alpha. Being alpha is something that comes from within you, from your confidence. If you don't have confidence, that's something that you need to work on. I strongly suggest Hypnotica, http://www.theinnergameguru.com. I think that's an amazing place to start.

I have found that when people don't have an abundance of confidence, once they start aligning themselves with nontoxic company, ie: good friends, they tend to have exponential gains.

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Any advice on avoiding one-itis. Its fairly easy to close a lot of girls, but hard to stay away from the emotional attachment..

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medic, thanks for answering my question:

i've been into the game for a little more than a year now, yet i still haven't seen many results. i've had sex with two okay looking girls and thats about it. i read the game and mystery method, and i lately i've been trying gunwitch method. however, i still haven't gotten a girlfriend or had sex with HB 7's and higher.

i honestly don't know what i'm doing wrong. do you have any advice for me?

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To Gem...

How much are you practising being in social situations?
And where are you doing this?

Medic

This is somewhat related to Natural Game since it has to deal with maintaining composure from external influences (if that counts )

I posted a couple of pages back about the whole friend circle thing. Anyways, you told me I shouldn't subject myself to a toxic environment and after weeks of thinking, I agreed with you. So I've started to distance and ignore one of them who I label as a fan-boy of me; he stalks everything I do from facebook to who I talked/hung out with to who I'm dating.

Lately he's tried to ruin the current relationship I'm in. I won't get into the details but let's say when I confronted him about it, he stated that the reason for him doing this was that I haven't talked to him for weeks. He asked if I flipped out at my gf, to which I answered no, then he walked away saying he had nothing else to say. Yes, I know he's doing this for his own entertainment and to get my attention.

I honestly hope this isn't his way of some kind of affection... but I'm curious about your opinion on this.

Hey Medic,
I work at a gym in my city, and I see a lot of cute girls everyday. Today I saw a USA Olympic Gymnast and I didn't know who she was until i searched her name on facebook and found out she was a famous gymnast. So my question is, next time i see her, how would I open her? I work at the front desk, and I scan people in as my job. And also, how would I be able to number close her?



Thanks, I appreciate it.

medic, i am new to the game, how will i get good at this game, by approaching using routines, or approaching without routines? My end goal is to drop routines and be a person that naturally attracts women, and become a cool funny and relaxed guy. Thanks

Hi Medic,

Thanks for personally answering questions. I know everyone appreciates it. Here is my situation:

I'm new to this forum. I'm new to the game. I'm definitely an AFC. I had fairytale beliefs about the relationship between men and women, but it was shattered when my girlfriend of 5 years cheated on me for the 2nd time. (I know, I know.) In short, I became a total loser (if I wasn't already).

After 8 months of no contact with her, I mustered up some courage to go down to a bar and sarge it alone. A couple of hours into it, all I managed to do was make friends with the bouncer. Then a 10 sat next to me while I was smoking a cigarette outside. I asked her how she was doing and she replied. We talked more and more and started to get along. Then a guy came out of nowhere and started to talk to her. Then another guy. And then another guy. Pretty soon there were a bunch of guys talking to her at the same time and her attention was off of me. I started to feel insecure and started looking around like a fool but then she backed up and leaned against me while still talking to the other guys. And the guys kept coming. For every guy that left, another would replace him. I just stood there pretending to laugh and acting cool, but I was feeling totally insecure.

We went to get a bite to eat in a small restaurant and the same thing happened. And I sat there for another grueling 30 min or so feeling insecure.

How do I avoid this situation? Or diffuse it? I tried to act as cool as possible but all these guys kept trying to cockblock me and frankly, old feelings about my ex started resurfacing.

We ended the night on a good note so I think there will be another time that we will hang out. We exchanged numbers (she asked for mines first) and now we text each other but I'm not sure how to ask her out again.

Thanks for any advice you can give me, Medic. I'm still reading all the literature and I'm working on being comfortable in my own skin. It's still a bit hard for me, but I will continue to practice.

Hey Medic,

Though I'm only 18, for my entire life I've been reasonably sucessful with women, even before I started to look into PUA I've had no problem using simple techniques such as negging, DHV, and kino. But ever since I I've started sarging with the intent of picking up those attractive women I used to be afraid of, my social skills towards women has gone through the roof. I can close just about any set I open to, but in the back of my mind, everytime a approach and talk to a set and go into my routines I can't shake the feeling that I'm playing them. And after I f-close, I lose intrest quickly due to the thought that seduction is a game. And it's hard to believe in the idea of love when you can tear down attraction to a science. I guess my question is have you ever felt this way about pick-up? And if so, how did you deal with it?

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Hi medic, first of all, thanks for giving us all an opportunity to pick your brain. I'm very into natural game, as I didn't even discover the community until after about 2 years of almost constant sarging (and i improved a lot in that time). But I was just wondering if you have any tips for improving kino escalation with natural game.

I don't like using canned material, but I find that is the one area I stall on. Any ideas?

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Hello Medic


I found out about game almost 2 years ago, it's improved my success with woman a lot so far, i understand these thing's that i used to pick my brain with. But just lately the last 3-4month's I cant really explain it, but it's like i disengage from conversation's ill give you a quick example, i'm in the moment all hyped up talking about something, the human i'm talking 2 will laugh or add to the convo, but then there will be a pause, and in this time, when i'm spose to start a new convo or a comment, i phase out, it's very odd, i can only hope this behavior that i'm portraying isn't labeling me as a weirdo.

I also have these moments where i feel on top of the world, like ultra unstoppable, these moments come and pass, but when i feel in that state, it's a very reality altering state, i feel like i can really listen 2 people (body lang, gestures) and understand fully what they want/and or/ feeling and enjoy there energy while my energy flows to them.

I have other moments, were i want to go talk to a girl at work, or someone in general, but it's like my head is racing at 1000mph and it just feels weird to try and start a convo, so ill just be silent, which i can only think adds to the image of weirdo.

I'v learnt to change my state from negative to positive, though talking 2 myself in my head, and also belly breathing.


My question to you: How can i stay in convos longer, and have something to talk about, i'm also struggling(shy?) to touch a woman, i believe this is down to me feeling uncomfortable, and when i think of touching her, i won't, but then dwell on it, which sends me into a vicious cycle, where i want to touch her, but don't want it to be awkward then my monkey brain spins at 2000mph.


Also what are you thoughts on smoking the class b drug, wacky backi?

Thanks for your time Medic

Manic.

Dear Medic,

First of all, before I bother you with any of my questions, I'd just like to admit that I'm really impressed that you've kept to your promise of helping out these people, as I can see that you've replied to most answers, and your streak doesn't seem to be letting up so far. This is a incredible proof of your value to me so far, and I'd just like to say that I can see why you're a man of natural game.

Once again, good job.

Anyways, on to the important stuff. My questions are probably something you've heard before, and I'm sorry if it sounds very deja vu-ish or you've answered it before, but I haven't read through the entire thread, but I've looked through 2,3 pages and I haven't seen any questions like these so I'll just hope that these are original.

First off

1. I'll admit, I haven't been practicing any canned material or stuck to any of the training routines shown by any gurus. I strongly believed that to be attractive, you had to be seriously be attractive, inside and out, so I've stuck with nothing but natural game and life building for these past 2 years.

But I live in a country where it's pretty hard to walk up to people and talk as my first language, english, is not the common tongue here.

So, I was wondering, is there anyway to build upon my natural game with friends?

Making friends with strangers is hard, and I'll admit, not something I wanna do, cause I have amazing friends already, but I would like to improve my success rate with friends I can make in school (I'm currently in my last year of high school) and to improve my very fibre of being so that I can follow the first code of PUA - Leave them better than when you find them.

I'd like people to enjoy themselves around me, and I'm positive that PUA is something that can help me achieve that, since this subject is basically is being incredibly social.

2. I seem to have hit a block with what I'm doing. I've followed this approach for years - If you don't get the results you want, change what you're doing, but I can't seem to get noticeable results. I may have missed that small change, but I don't think I'm heading anywhere with this.

I've tried canned material sometimes to see if they work (Contradicts the above, I know, but it was just a test) but even though the results are desirable sometimes, I still think I'm missing that feeling of rapport I'm seeking to get from anyone I want.

So yes, I have like a million questions, but these are the ones that are plaguing me the most right now. Do you have any suggestions? Any help would be appreciated, man. Thank you.

Scar

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