Hi
All I have going for me is that I have a job.. Yeah I know during these times I should count my blessings, but I have no friends, no social life, no hobbies nothing. I work pretty much alone and do have a lot of free time that I pretty much fill with watching tv.

I feel like I'm just wasting my life, living like a hermit.

I'm not good with people at all, can't hold a decent conversation. When it comes to women I have no confidence, just don't know what to say so in the rare times that I do have the chance to talk to one, I simply stand there quiet.

Some health problems mean I can't join sports teams or join a gym. Think that also is a major cause of my social problems too.


Can anyone give me any advice on what to do to get out there..where to start?

Thanks for taking the time to read all this!

Find something you like to do and join a club. Try meetup.com.

Find something you like to do and join a club. Try meetup.com.

Find something you like to do and join a club. Try meetup.com.

I hear ya I have a similar problem minus the well paying job. I think we just have to go out and play the field clubs or where ever the single women are malls are good at certain times like not when the "couples" seem to congigate like friday night not saturday morning.

But IM with ya we got to get the fuck out of the house.

Dude, you are 26!

Alright, first off...LIMIT YOURSELF on the TV. Its great entertainment but rotting away in front of it is not a great thing. I mean you are on this forum so I am guessing that you want to get out of this routine.

1st up, clean up your looks if you have to. Get a haircut, some new clothes and maybe a nice new watch. (: matching shoes with belts....kidding.

Following that, just spend some time talking to yourself in the mirror. I know it sounds weird. But do it, and while you are at it maintain eye contact with yourself. Encourage yourself for the day, talk about how pissed off some random dude made you, discuss about how hot a chick is with yourself. Just be wary about people walking by, you tend to get weird looks. But it helps to build conversational skills to at least maintain a point. It works, and talking to yourself might just help you understand yourself better. Paint a positive mindset. If you don't believe in being a people's person, chances are not many others are gonna give you a chance.

Finally, go out and just make small talk with cashiers, waiters or shop assistants. They mostly have a very boring job scope. and when you talk to them and chat with them, it'll liven their day and at the same time you can possibly make a new friend. (:

Its the basics. I hope it helps. I remember this from somewhere, "A bored person is a boring person." So spend more time outside chatting and socialising. Its okay if you can't do sports, pick up an art. Music, drawing....there are lots of things out there to learn. Cheers mate! And all the best!

first. what are your health problems? what CAN you do. whatever you CAN do physically you need to find activites taht suit that lifestyle. there are women everywhere