So I have a small problem,

I am 20 from the Boston, Massachusetts in the U.S.

Considering that, I have absolutely no idea on what fun things I can do with a girl after I meet her. Sadly, I can't go to bars yet (drinking age in the U.S. is 21 and it is strictly enforced... The U.K. and all other countries have all the fun ).

I do not want to necessarily invite a girl out to lunch/dinner. For the most part I would like to see a girl, but I do not want to do anything that she could possibly consider a date, hence possibly getting nervous.

I usually have a party or other event on weekends, however girls can get easily distracted or busy on weekends. There is less of a chance that a lady will "flake" if I see her during the week.

However, another constraint is that many girls are busy with classes and studying during the week.


So I ask all of you guys what do you think some good weekday (also feel free to post weekend) ideas that a 20 year old could do with a girl he just met on the previous weekend?

My suggestion isn't anything universal, but sometimes you just have to find things to do- there is more to the world than bars and clubs, but you have to go out and look.

As far as worries of something being a date, I suggest doing the things you like anyway and dragging her along if she's available. That way it seems more as if you are just asking for her company while going about your usual week, rather than asking her out- if it's really that big an issue for you. I wouldn't worry so much- if you have the attraction/comfort down, she won't really mind going on a date.

Top places to look:

Bulletin Boards- Find these in local coffee shops, book stores, college campuses- make it a point to write down every little event you find for later reference. It's also a pretty good DHV to get an idea of all the fun things going on as girls will assume you know the town better than they do.

Online Listings- Search with google, use online newspapers like the Examiner, yahoo reviews, etc. to find out about places around town to go.

Bus Adventures/Cruising- If you have public transit, I highly recommend just wandering around town on the cheap and looking into any place that strikes your interest. Once there, ask people what they do for fun or if they know about any good events around town.

Meetups- There are a lot of different clubs online- looking some up will let you more easily meet up with groups of people with common interest, who will often have events of various types. This may not immediately pay off.