Just come back from a great evening at my university and got 2 numbers....Walked a girl home and kissed her on the cheek.
I probably could have quite easily pushed it to 3 or 4 numbers if I'd tried harder (i.e. asked the girls I'd been talking to). I've realised that getting numbers is actually very easy. I REALLY need to learn how to close properly though. (without using alcohol, or relying on the girl being drunk). I had a couple of beers, but was much more sober than my last night out trying to pick up, so was consciously thinking about things more.
Sorry for the slightly erratic writing style...I'm trying to highlight the important points of my evening with relation to pick-up, without giving a step by step account of everything that occurred.
Main tactic employed.....'social proof'
There was an international culture event at my University, which I couldn't resist attending. Basically, all the international students were there showcasing their country's culture, serving food and doing performances. I'd befriended some Japanese students earlier in the day, and helped them prepare some of the food for the event. As a result of this, it was really easy to just go and high-five any of them. All the Japanese girls were dressed as schoolgirls and were a big group who were quite noticeable. Walking over and getting lots of these girls to high five must've been really good for 'social status'.
My friend is in the 'Latin American Society' so I got introduced to them, and in particular a Lithuanian girl (not from Latin America, I know). I spent most of my evening bouncing between both societies. Also thrown into the mix was a Russian girl and her friend, who I'd talk to a lot, with lots of touching as I made conversation.
I'm not a good dancer, but dancing came up in conversation. The Lithuanian was a 'champion' salsa dancer, so I suggested she give me a lesson. I've really never danced properly before. That's not a problem, as I wasn't too scared to try, and just acted confident despite being a poor dancer. Turns out she lived on my road, so I TOLD her we'd walk back together. Danced with her for a bit. Then left her with my friend, to go and hang with the Japanese. Hung with them, a lot. The Russian had been buzzing around a lot, I'm pretty sure she was interested in either me or my friend. I generally tried to not pay her too much attention.
As she was leaving, (I was sat with all the Japanese), I went up to her, handed her my phone and said 'give me your number so we can go for a beer sometime'. She did it.
This seems like a really good way to get numbers. Just talk to a girl for a few minutes. Leave her, come back to her, (she'll remember you if you're ok at making conversation, confident and maybe a bit flirty), chat some more, then hand her your phone and tell her to give you her number so that you can do whatever. I used the same tactic on the Lithuanian later, since I'd told her we'd be walking home together, LOGICALLY she should give me her number so that we could meet up at the end and walk back.
About 20 minutes before the place kicked out, my friend introduced me to a Spanish girl. Turns out I'd actually been in a meeting with her before, but I genuinely couldn't remember her. She's also studying the same course as me, but a couple of years below. I decided I'd try and ramp up the seduction as we had a lot in common.....
As I was talking to her, I was touching her a LOT. I'd touch her arm at first. I eventually got to the point where I had my hands on her waist as I was talking to her. She said 'you're very friendly, you like to touch a lot', or something to that effect. I said 'I am'? I just like to touch people as I talk to them. I put my arm round X when I talk to him'
Spanish girl 'yeah, just most English people don't touch like that'
Snowyt 'Oh yeah I know, they're all antisocial, we don't even look in the eyes when we say 'cheers'. I don't like that, so I try and be more physical'.
I turned down the touching a bit from there, as I guess I'd been over the top. I tend to escalate pretty quickly, literally touching the arm as I talk, to holding the arm (gently), to putting my hand behind the back and leaning in. In this case, I put one hand on each side of her as we were face to face, which was probably too much. NOTE: WORK ON KINO!
Anyway, that was pretty much the end of the night. I met the Lithuanian, and went outside. Said bye to the Spaniard, and walked home with the Lithuanian. We just chatted some shit on the way home, I asked her about her hometown, what she thought of the UK. Pretty boring stuff really. Got home, said bye, had a hug, and kissed her cheek.
This is where I fall down. I have fun, I like dancing with girls, and getting numbers from them. I especially like hanging out with foreign girls. But I am really failing to escalate properly. Sure, I have 2 numbers now. I'll probably hang out with these girls. But I have to do something to make it more sexual, and not just end up as a friend.
I don't think I left the girls with the feeling 'I can't get that guy out of my head'. I think they'll have just thought 'Oh, he was nice. He had lots of friends, it's not a problem giving him my number'.
I'll call the Russian tomorrow.....
Ironically....the less I talk to the girl, the more they like me. Must be my amazing personality
I hope that this was of some use to some people!
Lessons learned:
It's not hard to talk to people
It's not hard to dance with people
It's not hard to get numbers
Be more sexual in future.
Peace.
CHAT
