I'M in univiersity and met a friend of mine SPAM. Whenever where out together we get on well and have a good time. Recently added her to facebook and it seems we only speak when i start the conversation i dont know if this is because shes to shy to say something first or because shes not interested. any techniques i can use to find out? should i stop trying to start the conversation first? we make alot of eye contact when out and considering we havn't known eachother for long she seems to be comfortable around me.

She's playing impossible for you to get.

From my experience, when a girl only talks to me when I initiate the conversation, she's probably not interested. Also, does she tend to end the conversation by stopping replying first?

Don't try to chat with her online anymore. When you see her in person, then try to get some attraction going.

You need to build attraction with her.

The thing i do when i encounter something like your situation is whenever we go out with one of my buddy's female friends(first, i make sure of course he hasn't targeted her before i make my move), is that i know that shes not going anywhere and i could always talk to her, so i just start to act and be ALPHA and game other girls and make sure she watches your success.

This will raise your S&R value and she will find you more attractive.

After gaming the girl, act all up and smile to her(your SPAM's friend) and ask her how come she is still lonely and if no one of the guys in the place hasn't tried to hit on her.
It will make her question herself as a woman, so what I'd do, i would ask(while pointing at some random guy) if she wants me to introduce her to the guy - She'll say "No, i'm fine".

From there, i continue the attraction with Palm Reading, Cold Reads, C&F material etc.
The main thing is though, that you don't come across as needy so I'd suggest that you immediately stop initiating conversations online.

Hope this helps.

I got a similar situation where I've known a gal for a few years, it's pretty much strictly online except lately we've been hanging in person a lot. I'm getting a ton of IOIs and then I get a random "I'm dating two guys right now" or she's checking her phone to see if any guys messaged her. I'm gaming her hard when I do see her and need to switch the attraction switch on her hard. We consider ourselves friends but I'm the one always initiating the conversation. Ideas on how to proceed? How to switch things to my side?

im in a very similar situation as the OP