I take my vote back - break up with her. She deserves a healthy relationship with someone that actually cares for her.

dump her.
and do it soon because it sounds like she will either dump you or cheat and then you'll feel even worse.

what do you mean, She is the one not caring.
you dont even know half the shit im going through with her

I have had it with her though, I dont want to see her this week.
Next week I break up.

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Failure was never an option


Because girls don't like sex.. Yeah RIGHT!
Why else do you think girls have P*ssies

You are in the frame of you chasing, and to her you are harrassing her, ruining her fun etc. You need to switch it around.
The only way you can do this is no contact. She is expecting you to contact her every five minutes asking whats up, when you dont do this then she will have to think about the problem and once she gets space she will start to miss you , and begin to chase you.
Its going to kill you to do, but NO CONTACT. She wil text you in a few days. Be complaicent, text her the day after saying you have been busy , hope she is well.

From that point you transfer the chase over to her.
There is no other way im afraid.

Break-up with her and move on

Good luck man

wow thanks cowboy !

I had her on the phone today, She asked me when she would see me again. I told her next Wednesday I would hop by real quick

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Because girls don't like sex.. Yeah RIGHT!
Why else do you think girls have P*ssies

Pretty sure you know what to do.

I know the shit you described in your post. Of course she doesn't care after what you did to her. I don't blame her for anything she's doing at the moment.

So let's add all this up.
So you don't want her to be with any other guys but it's ok for you to toss her aside when you find someone better? Turnabout is fair play man.

Big ol' duh to that one. Neglect the girl you date and you can prepare to either start doing your part in a relationship or prepare to be dumped. You're setting yourself up for any guy out there to run boyfriend destroyer on her, because you can guarantee she has a lot of problems to talk about with your relationship.

Wow. Combine with the top two quotes and tell me who is the mentally abusive one.


So...do you like stupid, ugly, trashy girls that you don't want to marry later? Make up your mind dude.


In my opinion, you earned it.

It sounds like you were trying to mix picking up chicks with having a steady relationship man. That's like juggling nitroglycerin dude, it's bound to blow up. Flirting is all fun and whatever, but how can you justify that it is wrong for her to flirt with those guys when you are out doing everything but fucking other girls? I reiterate my point: turnabout is fair play.

Look I'm all fine and dandy with the idea of some guy being a player, but the real player shouldn't be out to break hearts. Honesty not only keeps people from getting hurt, it keeps a good reputation for you. If you wanted to do something like this it would be much better if you didn't have a girlfriend, and if you didn't tell multiple girls you want to date them. That's just good karma.

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There's a reason you want to be a PUA, so don't lie to yourself.

You want the 10's.

Breaker

I'm in agreement that you need to switch frames...

BUT I am also in agreement with RuleBreaker that you are going back and forth in your own head waaay to much.
So do you or do you not like her? Maybe if I understood that part it would be easier to give advice if you are still looking for other ideas.

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Im not even gonna vote...

Are you seriously creating an internet vote to decide for you if you are gonna break up sith your girlfriend?

That is the most interesting thing about the entire thread.

Plus, you have already made up your mind havent you?

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I'm not trying to be a dick Ezo, but you're being a Pick Up Snob in my opinion.

bbardot: you just reminded me about porn

yeah, actually I have been training really hard in the gym to move on.
I have not heard much from her the last 7 days.
Last tuesday she started a huge fight just because i said i didnt wanna see her that night. I had seen her the night before, in fact I stayed up late to pick her up from the train station.

Okay to explain the contradictions im posting, well, objectively: My girlfriend is really smart, really beautiful, it clicked really well, She basically is almost a perfect future wife.

Subjectively: My girlfriend is a huge slut! She is going out with other men, not letting hear anything from her. IM REALLY FUCKING PISSED
Especially because she made a huge issue last week for me not being there for her, and because she wanted to pin me down.
She wants me to be there for her and stuff, but I wanted that too ! I really did ! Like when we were dating for 6 months or so, there were times she was just being a slut in our relationship! I mean, I was really in love with her, I wanted to see her so bad ! I hadnt seen her for like 2 weeks! We had a date like we would meet and I loved to see her!
Then she flaked, she had something up with her best friend. That night it turned out she went out till fucking 6 am.

Those things broke my heart, cuz she is my first girlfriend. I felt so rejected. I set in my mind that whenever I had enough from her, Im gonna fire it all back at her.
Well that time is now I guess

If I really wanted it to work I can really change and stuff and really make it (our relationship) work. But my gut says I cant. I have had too much shit from her. Im not taking any more.

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Failure was never an option


Because girls don't like sex.. Yeah RIGHT!
Why else do you think girls have P*ssies

Yo guys i want you to tell yall an update which i think you guys would would find frkn funny..

I want her back !

I screwed up, as someone else said before your gonna fuck up and you are gonna spend the next 6 months trying to get her back

damn he's gonna be right !

lol im such a jackass

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Failure was never an option


Because girls don't like sex.. Yeah RIGHT!
Why else do you think girls have P*ssies

Basically you messed it up. You wouldn't be this upset if you didn't like her.

You got freaked out when she wanted to get in your bedroom. YOU thought this meant she wanted to get married. That was an assumption on your part. Couples spend a lot of time at each other's houses, and even move in together in very long relationships (like 1 year and up).

You effectively pushed her away so she's moved on. You have no one to blame but yourself.

If you want to get her back now, it's too late. No harm in trying though - who knows, you may have a little chance. But it's not really likely at this point, in my experience. You've been dating for 2 years, she's found someone new and exciting, and she will remember what you did as mean and unthoughtful and naieve, and then coming back is just an admission of this, and won't make her want you. Learn from this.

Next time, don't be so stupid and block love from your life. If she actually starts talking about getting married, THEN you can sit down and have a long talk about where you both see yourselves in the next couple of years. But what you did was just avoid her, which is stupid.

If I use the word stupid a lot - don't take it too personally, it's not just you, this kind of behaviour is a common issue amongst guys, but guys need to hear this sort of thing because it's the only thing that works. What you did WAS stupid.