Im a CM not PUA, and so my methods and style of getting and chatting to girls will be different to most peoples on here.

However 2 things that i use always use when im meetingup and having to charm girls (girls i meetup from the net), or when im out in nightclubs trying to meet some brand new girls, will be extremely effective for basically every single guy out there who gets suffers from approach anxiety.


1. Always always start with a giant smile on your face!

When you are on the street/in the club and you see the girl you want to approach you will be feeling nervous about ''what if she thinks im a creep, what if she is blunt and rude to me, what if i look foolish and other people around see and think that im a weirdo... ect''

However the best and most effective way to deal with this isn't to try and 'get rid of those thoughts', as they are all logical sensible thoughts to have,
but so to instead just change the tense of them from the future to the past.

And the way to do that is to just whack a giant smile onto your face, glide over to the girls, and start your opening.
(Make sure you glide tho, not stride, stroll, prance, skip, saunter, or any other kind of silly looking walk)



While it may be very difficult to approach the girl, chat to her, think about what to say.. ect
No-one can ever say that they find it ''hard to smile''.

And so instead of focusing on any of that hard stuff, simply stick a giant smile on your face (not a sheepish grin, i mean the sorta smile you would have if you were walking down the street behind a mega fit girl and then the wind blew her skirt up n she was wearing a hot-pink thong!)

And trust me, as soon as you make your mouth into that giant smile your entire mindset and demeanour will change, as you will now be the fun smiley lively guy.
And if you combine that with the 3seconds rule, your only thoughts that your mind has will then be AFTER you've finished chatting to the girls.
When you then can look back in the past tense and either think ''Gee i must have looked like such a weirdo'', or, ''whooo i must have looked like such an exciting chatty guy and i just got to know some fit girls''.

But since its the in past now, whatever thoughts you then have and however much anxiety you have it will be irrelevant, as you will already have done the event and survived it.

2. Get the image of Chandelor from the Friends tv show into your mind, giant smile onto your face, and decide to yourself that you will act exactly like he does for the next few minutes.

You can stand there trying to look quietly look swarve, stylish and sophisticated like george clooney, thinking that tht will impress and attract the girls,
but sadly (or luckily) its the confident, laughey jokey guy who actually drops the whole trying-to-look-alpha act and actually makes jokes about himself, that will attract the girls.

And this is also a great way to not only deal with akward rejections when they happen, but to actually plan in advance how to deal with them.

As when the girls say ''Err who are you, why are you talking to me, i dont know you!'', instead of panicking and either trying to come up with a cocky neg comeback (that could likely get you a slap or worse unless the girls a wimp), or stammering awkwardly feeling embarassed and low,
Keep the big wide smile on your face (although make it abit sheepish), shake your head abit, shrug your shoulders once, and just say with the smile on your face ''What can i say, im a sad sad little man. I spent all day hanging around trying to chat to random girls for fun. You got any tips on how i could improve my technique though?? (keeping big smile on your face)''.


And by doing this you not only have diffused a potential hostile and very akward situation, and instead made it into a much for light-hearted jokey kind of 1 where you are actually in-control of the situation,
but you actually have put the girl in a situation where shes either going to have to walk away herself feeling embarassed, or will have to keep chatting to you and give you some tips on what she thinks a good way to meet new girls is.

Spanish89, your still full of crap. You were laughed out of the trade2win forums, you will end up getting laughed out of these.

people put too much thought into this stuff