Yeah, so I believe you're either of this "sexually open" mindset, or not.

There's nothing to change that either way, all you can do is let her know how it makes you feel, and for you to understand, if it's not obviously some manipulative thing, that's it's just her way of sharing and trusting you, and so you meet in the middle. Which is what a relationship is all about.

I'm not down with this aggressive macho shit some of those other guys are posting, and writing off these girls as if they are "sluts" when they just can't accept that women can be as sexually liberated as men. I know many sexually liberated girls who are kind and lovely and loyal, and am deeply offended by this assumption.

WTF? Dude, the exbf fucked her right and if you're going to match up and stay alpha you need to step up your sex game and make this chick holla from the bottom of her feet to the top of her head like a freakin' monkey in heat. A lot of guys would kill for a verbal, dominant sex-positive female, especially the ones who have girlfriends/wives who make life-size silicone japanese sex dolls look more animated.

Fuck her like the porn star she wants to be and don't look back with a single regret. Someday a loong time from now when you're a broken down old man with 50 grandchildren you will think back on this advice and thank me.

Finally, someone else who "gets" it.

HOWEVER...... I would steer away from comparing yourself to her previous boyfriend. The thing about sex is it is unique for every combination of people that can get together. In fact this is what makes the sex stories okay. If you compare yourself, it's like comparing apples and oranges, remember that.

You have to do the best sex YOU can create. You may have to take steps to find out what that is.

I know for me, I just got a little daring. Some things don't work, and some things REALLY work, but you won't find out if you don't try.

One time I pinned her hands down above her head with my hands, and kept telling her not to move. I could see in her eyes she was getting really excited, by this "light bondage". She even told me afterwards. Naturally it was the way I said it and the way I did it, it just came to me. Relaxing to the point where things just come to you is our main goal in all areas of life, especially attracting women and all the other stuff.

GUYS!!! i love you alllllllll, i dont post much on the forums but watch them abit, escpecially recently since ive been going through something with my gf. Anyway my post will follow this one, just wanna thankyou all for your input, i somtimes forget of my PUA days or AFC days now that im in a relationship and its nice to be reminded of how i SHOULD be acting.

Yeah man this is whats killing me right now, im usually quite good at dealing with all the thoughts, and always reassure myself that im the best shes had.

Recently though she was out with her friends.... who she lost and some guy she knew walked her home. The guy was from her single life who she kissed a year ago, he wanted to try his luck that night but she told him she was in love etc etc. Anyway thats fine i was like "no biggy im not threated since i think hes nothing compared to me".

So now he knows she has a bf...... anyway we were together one night n he texts her drunk saying he wants her etc etc. So she tells me (she is brutally honest, then tells me she did more stuff with him a year ago one night but didnt sleep with him). I know shes had one night stands and this wasnt even one but its fked my mind right up.

Ive lost it totally! my mindset is shot to shit n im like a insecure lil bitch, all that stuff that happend hasnt really bothered me its just now i have IMAGES OF HER SINGLE LIFE and like others have said, its putting me off.

guys i know im being proper imature since we didnt even know eachother when we were single so why should i have any opinion of it. But its messing me up abit, i love my relationship n dont want stupid shit to spoil it (i know its down to me). I dont rly get needy or whine to her about stuff, i just get moody n freeze her out, which is pathetic! but i dunno how to stop it.

My girl is honest trustworthy and so loyal i have nothing to worry about, and ye mayb i did see her as kinda innocent, and the reality of the past is now playing with my mind.

Any positive advice please, its nice just reading these posts that alot of us all have the same feelings n thoughts so the posts have helped alot.

Cheers

You need some sort of kick in the pants, I believe.

First think about how your "freezing her out" over these silly things, will eventually see you wind up with NO girlfriend to be stressing about in the first place.

im well aware of this, but im gonna try n change, i dont wanna wreck it all. Its just a inner game thing i guess, hopefully i can work on it and get over this rubbish, past is past anyway n i cant let it wreck the present.

Well I think you've head it all before, but I don't think you're really "aware" of it - I think if you really were confronted with the prospect of her dumping you, you'd find a way to cope. Think about it - she dumps you, you're sitting around afterwards, and you get the overwhelming urge to call her and explain ... whatever.

So get yourself into that mindset now and suddenly you'll find all kinds of ways to cope.