So, I was sitting in a coffee shop, and there was a cute girl sitting next to me. I like this particular place as my hiding spot from the world, so I don't normally talk to anyone here. But this girl was giving me signals hard. She kept looking over at me, playing with her hair, rubbing her neck, etc. So I figured I'd talk to her. So I finally look up and we eye contact. I say "hey", she says "sorry, what was that", so I just said "hi". She laughed, and said "hi" back. I couldn't think of how to play it. Instantly I thought negging her for laughing at me would make me look bad, so I just smiled and went back to reading my paper. Any tips on how I should have handled this?

When I read how you describe it, it seems like a harmless friendly laugh, unless she was particularly brutal about it. The fact that she said "sorry" shows she was concerned about what you had to say, so when she realized you were just saying hi, it may have been more of an "aw that's cute" kind of reaction from her. Seems like you were being too harsh on yourself rather, which threw you off.

I'd probably ask her "whatcha doin/readin over there?" or some type of comfort building question. Since she was interested, she's probably waiting for an opportunity to talk, just waiting for you to ask anything.

I'm new to the community, but hope I was helpful in the least bit.

-Cheers

Huh, I hadn't thought about it like that. It was a little giggle, nothing brutal. Damn, I should have plowed forward. Oh well, leason learned.

glad you approached even though u didnt have anything in mind...thats great bc you still fucking approached and thats all that matters!!!

I wouldn't take it as something bad that you made a mistake. I would pump my fucken fists in the air.

Not only did you lose 1 girl out of like the world population, but you learned something HUGE.

Really think about what you learned, when you discovered it, give yourself a pat on the back.

Maybe she was shy, and shocked, and a bit nervous, dont ever stop there, go for a secound question and see how she responds to that.

Sounds to me like she was probably dissappointed that you didn't try again.

I know some of the guys here are against routines but I think it doesn't hurt if you have no idea what to say at first.

I would not use them forever but as training wheels it may not be a bad idea.

Next time if you have nothing to open with at all, you could at lest try to notice what she's reading, make some guesses about her from it, and start off with that. Couldn't hurt. Especially if she's reading something like Harry Potter or w/e.

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