I believe somewhere i read that confidence does not exist and it's just a belief in yourself. Well, the real question is who the fuck are you!!! Do you know? You've been shielding yourself with other peoples realities, to make urself seem better then you are. Our lives are just like houses built from bricks. So what i am trying to do for the rest of 2010 is to destroy this bullding. I don't want to think of life as something that keeps bulding on, i want to think of life as a solid changing to a gas to a liquid. You get the point? Basically what i'm saying is that your reality is just bricks thrown ontop of eachother. To change that you have to make the decision to change urself, not by adding new information, but by actually changing your view of life through intention and not through information. For example...

Let's say there is a guy, with no house, no kids, no wife, and no company. How would he live? I'm not sure, but i would be happy to be him. He is free from the system, the system is what i call the basic reality of our world. Now lets say this guy decided to change, what would he do? He has no house, no children, and no wive. He could ask the government but they can't do much. So the only thing he can do is to change who he is inside, what he thinks of the world. Now let me explain what i beleive the system is.

The System Is the Standard Belief of This World
Most People Fall Into System At One Time or Another

i'm not saying it's impossible to stay out of the system. the best way is to avoid it, and block out all things that are harmful to your intention and values.

i call this the IDS Intention Defense System

you need one of these to change your life, not change whats in your life, but to really change your life. Here are some examples of Social Conditioning or the System.


Clothing Styles
Politics
Friendly Values
Stereotypes
Food Favor
THe beleif that everyone is the same
the belief that everyone is equal

these are the types of beliefs that you should not get sucked into

the basic message of this is

Confidence is not a house. It can be a house or anything else you want it to be

make confidence your reality!!!

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Awesome is definitely an understatement

Interesting perspective...

I agree with you to a point, since I believe that social conditioning represents alot of out identity these days, when really it ought not. However, I wouldn't be happy to be the homeless, friendless, family-less guy. Yeah, he might be free from social conditioning, and 'the system', but he's got nothing, other than his beliefs.

Self confidence is hard to describe (I could create my own long post about it) but for the sake of arguement, I'll confine myself to summarise it as a deep belief in yourself and your abilities, and an ability to creat happiness for yourself, and not require happiness from external sources.

Back to your house analogy. I think that everyone has their own 'house', but confidence is their view of their own house. A confidence guy might say "I love my house, it's got everything I need, I'm happy to let people in here. I could make a few small changes, but my house is good". A guy with no confidence would obviously say the opposite "I don't like my house, I'd rather have someone else's house, I can't see what I like about my house". In actual fact, the houses could be identical, it's really got nothing to do with the house.

Hope this offers an interesting spin

My two cents:

I feel confidence is doing what you want even when you are nervous.

Confidence is embracing your fear; being aware of how it feels in your body and becoming comfortable with it, and then doing what you want (or what needs to be done).