A girl I've known for a few weeks has just split with her BF today, I've liked her since I met her and we have a lot in common and get on very well, lots of flirting and play fighting.

Today she split with her ex of like 2 years, I know she's in to me, and I would like to start dating this girl, just not sure how long I need to wait and how to go about it. If anybody has had a similar experience or any advice to share that would be great.

A few details, we are at University, from the same town and live in the same block of flats on campus, she is a 1st year, I'm a 3rd year and I see her everyday in my flat since we have the same friend. I've just started dating a pretty hot American exchange student she knows about but hasn't met.

Advice on how to go about this?

Thanks

~Phate

Sup Phate

Well first we need to take into consideration that she just split with her ex of 2 years. Personally, I would become a little friendly with her but not enough to say "lets just be friends" at the end of the day. Don't bring up the topic of her ex unless she brings it up, in that case, be sympathetic but also throw in some negetive connotations of him. It's psychologically proven that thinking of an ex in a negetive way (he's a bastard, he was heartless, he had a big nose, acne etc) helps the mind to get over them.
But back to the point, I wouldn't sarge her yet because if it does happen that she starts dating you she might mess it up with feelings from her past relationship.

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I think you're on the cusp of a dilemma, mate. Girls often go on a rebound date after a big breakup. Fills the void left by the old BF, can validate them to themselves. Meanwhile the rebound boyfriend gets all sorts of crazy guilt sex (which can be frustrating but hot). Are you prepared to see this girl with some other guy? Or do you want to be the rebound boyfriend? I wouldn't wait too long to dive in. Establish your value early and be her "trusted friend" she can talk to, but keep it touchy and mildly sexual with slowly escalating kino so you don't get in the friendzone.

I would disagree on trashing the ex-bf. It's one thing to agree with her to validate her decision to end the relationship (whether it was her choice or not), but its another to come out and verbally thrash the guy. It's not cool - remember, bro's before broads. There has to be a code of honor, yah?

So just keep one thing in mind - be excellent and show her a great time, keep juggling all her balls in the air (er, ok bad euphamism) but you know what I mean. Make it fun and interesting for her and keep her focus and attention on you and not on moping around pining for the ex-bf. As soon as the ex topic comes up, have a few great routines ready to go that build her confidence (because pining for the ex is a showing of low self esteem) and also DHV for yourself.