Well I went sarging by myself today, it wasn't planned so I wasn't looking my best. Like I said it was a lil unplanned.
I get there and head to the store I need to go to. There is a hired gun (afro American) there looking awesome (HB 8.5). I was looking at what I needed to get and I hear she is new to the job and following another attendant around.
In walk 3 HB (1-HB6 1-HB9 1-HB8) they would get together and would totally seperate. I figure to lay low and in the process I talked myself out of talking to any one of them. So I couldn't open the set and didn't want to get CB'd by a person walking into the set and throwing me off. I don't have much experience yet. Ya know what I was more upset by me failing to talk to them than if I would have got rejected...lol
I did game the hired gun, she was pretty tough to read but I did get her to laugh and we had a nice fluff session, I neg'd her and she laughed a bit. I did manage to go cocky funny on her and it went over well. No IOI's though so I exited (maybe to quickly).
No other openings that I wanted to attempt as I was beating myself up after not talking to them.
On my way out I had to follow up with a contact I made last week. I thought I could number close her on the phone after the fluff was done but got no love there either and I was really hard on myself after that.

1st real sarging and I wasn't happy with the outcome. I was way to hard on me and need to get over my social anxiety but all in all it was fun. \
I hope I see results someday....

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Learning the GAME

I go to the mall with the intention to sarge sometimes. However, when I find myself not approaching targets I get frustrated and stressed. And so then I'm busy trying to relax myself, as I'm in too much of a negative mood to sarge. So once I'm relaxed again, I try again but don't succeed so I get frustrated again. As in, I go around in circles. Last time I walked around for hours basically getting nowhere. And sometimes as soon as I get frustrated I just give up and leave.

Also, you wouldn't believe the number of excuses that pop into my head when I'm trying to approach. 'Oh, she's not that attractive', 'chatting to chicks won't be a big deal', 'I'm gonna feel weird afterwards or just the same', 'it's too much effort', etc, etc. *sigh*

Sometimes I believe it is better just to remain positive. As in, I'll talk to chicks when I talk to chicks. No point forcing myself. Although it's not completely giving up, and it's optimistic, I sometimes feel it's not enough.

Dirk you hit the nail on the head, my disappointment was not that I could have got rejected its that I didn't try...

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Learning the GAME

Oh yeah, same with me. I don't give a flying fuck if I'm rejected and get a slap in the face or something. In the end, I'll feel ecstatic just about the fact I approached. However, when I'm trying to approach I can't seem to remind myself enough of that fact. I rarely get that plunge feeling you get when your just about to interact with a chick. And the plunge feeling is due to your conflicting mental thoughts just washing away. Heh, a lot of the times I've approached chicks, or ALMOST recently, I was thinking 'oh shit, I'm actually going in and doing it'. It's like, good or not, you're just doing it and it's too late to change. Although last time I did manage to change at the last minute and call of the approach, basically because the target walked into a store and I didn't follow.

Thinking 'oh shit, I'm actually going in and doing it' probably is a negative thing to think though, because it's like I didn't really want to approach in the first place. I remember I was standing around trying to go up to a chick for probably a good ten minutes and then having a certain thought I just went up and did it. But as soon as I did 'it' I immediately ejected out of embarresment. A better thing to think would be 'Yeah, baby, here I go! Dirk Debonaire is going in!'