"its ok, in moderation. Id say dont touch her breasts or ass, start on the shoulders and escelate, read up on where her zones are that turn her on, like the hair line on the back of her neck etc, then cut it short once you can see shes getting turned on."
My gf likes me to do this to her in a non-sexual way. She says it relaxes her. There are many times when i try to escalate from doing this and she says she's "too tired" or she "has to get up early" or some other excuse. Although, there are some times when it has led to sex.
"Its clear to me you need to take control back. Masterbate you socks off so your not too horny with her and keep your cool around her however much she turns you on"
Thanks!
"in psychology a girls sexual desire drop off when shes not attracted to someone and is staying in the relationship so she doesn't have to be alone."
That has been the very thing I have been trying to figure out for a while now. We used to average having sex about 6 or 7 times a month. (I would have liked more, but I was okay with it). But lately her drive seems to be declining even more. I'll give you some positives and negatives and see what you guys think:
Positives - She tells me every day that she loves me. Along with this she tells me how handsome and sexy I am frequently. Often times she makes sexual innendos and talks about how much she enjoys sex. Tells me she wants to have sex so I don't find some other girl to do it with. And we still do have sex.
Negatives - A lot of times she has intentions to have sex but we have to wait several hours before we can do it and she becomes tired or not feeling well. She likes to be rubbed in her private areas, but usually in a non-sexual way. Sometimes I start to make out with her and escalate and shortly after she starts giggling or saying that tickles. She also says that it hurts her when I am penetrating her. Even though it hurts her, she says she wants to continue to try and have sex.
It is frusturating sometimes with my gf. I don't know if she really wants to have sex, but is genuinely tired or whether she is trying to use sex to gain an upper hand.
Several days ago we were driving, talking about how we enjoy sex and she said something along the lines of "We can't have sex tonight" I told her "that's fine" She said she was just saying that to see what I would say.
So last night we were lying in bed and she said she wants to give me blowjob tomorrow. I said "that's okay, you don't have to". She got upset and took offense.
The lapse in time between us having sex sucks. I am afraid that if I decline her offer to have sex when she is in the mood that will turn her off even more and she might loose all sexual interest.
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