hey whats up im a male, 20 years old in college and drive a nice car(to me). more to the point, i used to work with this girl over the summer and we never really hung out until one day i dropped her off somewhere, and i "broke the ice" during the drive with the "are you nervous" game and felt on her tits and vag. i dropped her off and she kissed me bye. a few days later i meet her at our job and she told me she broke up with her bf and my other freind said she told her that cheated on him on few days ago which was the reason and i assume it was me but i never bought it uo, so we chilled the nex weekend, and we go to a park, we make out, and i kiss her repeatedly. we see eachother a few weeks more but i wasnt really feeling her and all my other female freinds would talk down on her with me. months go by and we keep in touch, and then i get interested in her again.

i see her again for the first im in dec, and when she came in my car she wouldnt let me kiss her, and kept saying it aint gonna happen and she got bak with her bf who lives far away btw in another state. i was still persistant, and she dicides to tease me by gettin naked in the car, and i look but it wasnt nothing special, then i grab her and pulled her to my side, and we kissed and talked and we huuged and stuff for about a hour then she had to leave. we chill a few more times, mostly going to the peirs and cuddling and kissing dirty. i went to her hous to help her paint a few weeks ago and kept making her feel my boner, but she was on her period, but then she came round and said just f___ me and i was about to but i had no gloves and she didnt shave and she had a bloody tampont in her pants so that was a no no. we go out usually on weekends, and last weekend i we were about to do it by the peirs but the guard caught us but i fingered her and she went crazy. i call her and she calls me sometimes but since the i aint see her cause she was sik, and i offer to get her but she say dont bother shes ok. she also told me she likes the moments when were hugging and kissing at the peirs better than sex, and we aint have sex yet becase she said ill leave if she gives it up to easy.

my thing is i like this girl and i call her, but she calls me too, but i hate when she say shell call me bak and never does. should i keep pursuing her or not call her till she calls? last time we talked was yest night. i also have another sit but ill post later.

First of all your already doing ok so calm down 90 % of the guys here have a much
worse situation

2nd sounds like all you gotta do is take controll stop calling her for a lil while just

send a couple of text like wassup or hows my girl to keep let her know you havent

forgotten but at the same time could give a fuck wheather you hang out or not she

will start calling you more but i would like to here someone elses opionon on this

Yea thats what in gonna do. I hate when i call her and ask to see her and i cant. This weekend she was sick and i offered help but she tured it
Down cause her mom supposedly gets mad when she brings someone home. Wjen i went a few weeks ago i was polite and didnt start doing thinhs wiyh her till her mom leftc

Sorry for the spelling errors im on my ipod

Allright good luck bro

Allright good luck bro

did anybody else think this story was fucked?

my advice? she's hedging her bets between you, the guy she can fuck immediately, or her bf who she considers to be better than you. i'm not saying he is better than you, i'm just saying she places higher value on her out of the picture boyfriend. this could be for a number of reasons, maybe its the "absence makes the heart grow fonder" effect where she starts to forget all the bad things about her MIA bf and only thinks about the good things.

because you are in the picture here and now she has to deal with your flaws, which every person has.

tl;dr shes stringing you along until something better comes her way

you should read it leeroy. all my female freinds say im way better looking and want me to drop her but i kinda grew fond of her. she rarely sees her bf and hes out of state and not coming home i beleive

no, i meant "if my post is too long to read, here is the summation"

in the game, looks mean nothing. look at style, he's ugly as hell and yet he still pulls HB's

in this situation, in my professional opinion she is hedging her bets. if she really thought you were a better catch than her bf she would have dumped him already. you are allowing yourself to be the safety net.

if you think she might be the one or some crap then your only option is to stop being the safety net and pump the buying temperature. start chatting up new biddies at coffee shops, go to chapters and hit on the sales girls there. she needs to know that you are not going to wait around forever.

don't give her an ultimatum though, if you straight up tell her "its him or me" then you are showing weakness, it is a last ditch attempt to wrest control of the situation.

best case scenario, she hears through the grape vine that a chick she knows moderately well (and is as hot if not hotter than her) is interested in you.

best best case scenario, there is some kind of rivalry between the two, if that can't be accomplished then something along that lines (if your oneitis is a brunette, then make the girl a blonde; if oneitis has small boobs, find a chick that has giant ones, etc etc)

she had broke up with her bf a few days after our first time we hung out, and she had kissed me and i felt up on her. i found out through another freind that she told her that she cheated on her bf the same day i with her so im guessing it was because of me. she would call me regularly too on fridays. now i dont know. she likes me and we have talks and before she said she didnt want me to just leave her after i fuck her thats why she was holding out for those months and she was seeing if i would give up. i also remember asking her "if i asked to you to be my gf would you say yes?" and she said yes and i asked her to see what she would say and she was said how she just got out of a relationship and doesnt want to jump into one right away. i told her i felt the same and this was a few weeks ago. im not sure if she really has a bf cause when im with her her phone never rings and its always on loud and she doesnt have text, and that one time she said it, i gave her a long wet kiss infront her door and grabbed her ass and told her exactly:"tell your bf i said whatup" she also said she would feel more comfortable with me if i were her bf but i never asked her again. sorry if i write a lot but i think i fell in love even though i dont want to admit it.

she has a twin sister btw but i cant seem to get in touch with her. they look exactly alike and the only way to tell them apart is their voice.

mods please move this thread to relationship issues, this has no buisness under day 2's