Alright guys my progression from an AFC to what my interpretation of what a PUA is going really well. I haven't lost myself as a person, but have used some of the pick-up technique to better myself social. My success with women has greatly picked up, but I have come to a sticking point in my game. I know this is going to sound stupid, but here we go:

I get the girls into my room with the door shut (I live with 4 other roommates in a fairly large house) and get the girls on the bed, but then I kind of don't know what to do. I think one of my biggest strengths, which also doubles as a weakness is that I plan stuff out. In other words, I go into a party with the mindset that I am going to kiss or make out with a girl and then since I have planned it out in my head I follow through. That being said once I get a girl into bed I kind of freak out and don't know what to do or what to expect. I know as a guy I should be the one to make stuff happen, but I just don't know what to do and then I start thinking about how far I can get, but ultimately freak myself out and for the most part do nothing.

Last time for instance, I met up with a girl I knew at a bar we danced for a while then made out hardcore in the bar. Then she called my roommate (who she is friends with) and told him that she was coming over. She didn't mention it to me and when she got here we all chilled down stairs some, but then everyone went to their respective rooms. I went to my room and she of course made an excuse to come into my room. Next thing you know we are both on the bed.... And my mind starts racing, I don't know what she is expecting or how far she wants to go and I bug out. After her coming over and getting on the bed all we did was make out for a while and I grabbed her boobs on the outside of her shirt and bra. I then apologized to her after making out with her for a little while longer because "I'm awkward in these type of circumstances." I know apologizing is AFC, but thats me so I did it. After I said that we basically just kissed a little more and then cuddled and fell asleep.

I just was wondering if anyone here had a sticking point like this before and what they did to get over it. I hope I don't get a bunch of just don't think so much and just keep doing stuff till she says "no", but I have a feeling I will. Thanks guys I appreciate it a lot!

First off you need to kill the idea of "I'm going to go here and do this and this will be the result". Life should not be like this. If you just plan to have a fun evening and you add the idea that "hey tonight is going to be amazing and if I meet some lucky woman who is worth my time along the way then all the better" your close anxiety will be much less. I know where you're coming from but you can't plan sexual situations with women. If you go out looking for fun then you'll find it and women will find you more intriguing. There's no reason to plan everything along the way. Getting laid is easy, it's finding more which can be difficult. Good luck sir.

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"All the dragons in our lives are perhaps princesses expecting us to be handsome and brave, all the terrifying things are perhaps nothing but helpless things waiting for us to help them." Rilke

don't worry man, you're not alone. I had the same sticking point and I'm still kind of working past it. Check out these links:

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mysterys-5-rules-of-dealing-with-lmr-qu ... 16158.html

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