ok, so i got this problem and it seems kinda noob, i know, just help me out as this is pretty damn annoying. There is this girl that i had been talking to for a few months, and we go to the same high school (im 17, both in our last years of high school) Basically, she crossed the line and got on my nerves alot, so i blocked her and hadnt talked to her for awhile, but then she emailed me asking me to please unblock her and that she wanted to talk to me again (This is a few weeks later) and then i talked to her face to face and she looked so sad i couldnt resist re adding her and get somewhere with her this time (we hadnt done anything previously). ok so i do, and shes happy were talking again, but then i go to a party this weekend and shes there, this whole party shes wasted and hitting on me hard, following me around and touching me and stuff, i was trying for 2 steps forward one step back after she at one point grabbed my ass, i decided to leave for a bit to amplify (just the room) and then i cant find her, she wouldnt say anything to me for the rest of the party, and then she made out with 3 DIFFERENT guys! so she has the nerve to talk to me over msn as if everythings good, and i explain the whole situation to her, saying she leads people on and list other people shes lead on like that, and i was just straight ripping i was pissed, she tells me shes crying and apologizes lots of times saying she would never do that again and that she was just really fucked up, i went really harsh like breaking her down and continueing to make her cry, its been 2 days now and we havent spoken since, but a part of me feels bad and thinks maybe i should make up with her and see where that goes maybe in the short future have a relationship, but i know thats just noob thinking, however i cant bring myself to go sarge around and talk to other girls i just feel too bad i liek this girl too much, even though she did that i cant get over her she understands me so well i just cant let her go. soo?

i really have one-itis with her, but if you guys say i really should just move on then i would, im open to advice cuz i really just dont know what to do i need guidance, bad lol, if i did make up with her it would be to have an intimate relationship this time and not get lead on like that, but if you guys dont think thats possible then i would also just think of moving on

I only read the end of your post. I had this problem and I learned so much about myself through the experience which was one of the most terrible problems I had ever experienced.



Just think about it. It's ONE girl! Be true to yourself. Look at Mystery: http://www.dallaspua.com/mystery.htm



One thing that you must know is that there is a way to get ANY girl that you want (that you've not messed up things with). If you hone your game well and decide to be true to yourself and learn as much as you can from your mistakes, you will reach a level where you can have ANY girl you want. You can find a girl that is much better than the one that you like. And it's not about looks either: http://www.dallaspua.com/hot_or_not.htm


If you stick to your one-itis, later on along the road you will hate yourself for it. I seriously feel so goddamn embarrassed to myself because I lowered myself so much to try to get a girl that I could not but she's not worth it one bit (I am not lying, I gave myself an extreme illusion of this girl in order to hide some terrible things about her to myself). I have a friend who could not get over her boyfriend. She now has a much better boyfriend and she likes to have me invite her ex (who now desperately wants her back) to social events just to celebrate her happiness in front of her.



One girl is not worth it!

thanks alot for the advice, your right it hurts its such a bad experience to go through, ive been in alot of fights and stuff and id much rather get my ass kicked then experience this shit, i would have rather been jumped by 10 people then what happened at that party, im just gonna move on, i think i can relate alot this chick isnt THAT great, she has good tits and her face is.. sub-par? lmao but shes so good, but im not going to fool myself you have experience with this so ill take your word for it

Great!



Remember, you are a man. You have the privilege of sleeping with many women. Do women have that privilege? Definitely not. Sure women may chose men, but they really chose the men that pull the right switches, and you above that decides who to pull the switches on.


Women fall in love with men, not the other way around.

Well let me put this into perspective in proper principles.

- You stopped talking to her for 2 weeks(good) after only talking to her for the majority of the time online(bad). [Cat String Theory]
- You then talked to her face-to-face (good), you evoked emotions in her (good), then went to a party together (good). [Time Shift, Comfort and Trust]
- Then she got wasted (bad), her inhibition unit goes down (good/bad) and she gets horny (good/bad). So some repressed emotions spill out (good/bad) and she goes after you (good).
- Then you essentially reject her flat out by disappearing (bad), instead of being in sight and AMOG'ing by telling her that she's not allowed to touch your ass unless you say so or something to the effect that takes control, AMOG's, puts her in her place, but remains friendly.

So that's my analysis of what you did. Now as for her? Why did she go to 3 other guys?
- She was drunk
- No inhibitions (remember, your not the only guy she's likes)
- PUA terms: Lets say you were the initiator for her ramped up emotional state. And the sight of you got her all "sweat and botherd" (Buying Temperature) and you let her lose on the party without you there.

Hey man, you set her up. But you unleashed a horny monster when you walked away. Now remember this is intended to help you see what happened. Learn the basic principles, and read the forums to understand what happened and learn from it.

p.s. Can you recover? Sure, just understand why she did what she did and don't hold it over her head.

thanks again, your very smart in this i can tell you have the whole thing broken down perfect, im not insulted and it definately does help, ive learned from my mistakes and maybe i took david d;s 2 forward one back a little far by dissapearing, haha, w/e shes one girl, but you said i can recover.. do you think you could help me with that? how should i do that, like should i apologize for making her cry and all that? and then what, and too the first poster, i havent forgot what you said im down to go look for other people, but if this guy says i can recover then im going to try that at the same time and see what happens, so yeah what should i do, apologize? tell her i like her or tell her i would like to have a relationship with her

Fuck No. Realize she's the one that fucked up her chance with you. It's not your fault (on the surface) but hers. She knows what she did, so she has DLV'd herself below you because of her actions. Now your job is to keep talking to her but realize YOUR IN CONTROL now. She has to prove herself to be able to get you.
Keep her around you and make her work for you (This will double as Social Proof around school while she does it), but eventually arrange to do something together and for God sakes as a beginner learn all you can about the 'Let's Just Be Friends Zone(LJBF)" and steer clear of it with her so she doesn't get too comfortable around you.

As for if you want to f-close with this girl. Read the forums, read books suggested, learn the MM stages, and wear a condom!

Yeah buddy I've been with a girl that was playing lots of guys at the same time. This was back in the day when I was still an AFC. She basically didn't want to come out looking bad so she does the crying act to get her way. It's a way to control you buddy, and make you submit to her. Don't play that game! Hey girls are easy to come by if she fucks up...Bye sorry onto the next beautiful girl. That's how it is my friend.

I'm new to "the game", but have been in these situations before. Seems you definately have a case of one-itus. I say you leave it alone for awhile and try to forget about it by moving on to other HB's. To keep grinding on a chick that is just playing games or has drama issues is just a waste of your time and you will regret it later. If she really wants it, she will have to work hard to get it. Make her do the recovering.

ok, so i probably shouldnt apologize, but how am i going to be around her, what do i say "im not mad at you" or something i have no clue, what am i supposed to do to end the rough patch that i created now by ripping on her for like an hour and then not talking to her for like 2 days (3 now actually) and how should i let it be known that i want to have her in an intimate relationship now rather then just be a friend shes gonna do that with, also, dont worry guys you dont have to tell me to go hook up with other people, i am willing to do this, but i wanna at least try with this first, i mean shes still a virgin yeee, so yeah how should i start talking to her again, one suggestion since you guys dont know me or her and how we communicate, is that maybe if i just didnt talk to her long enough she would evantually start talking to me again but then if she didnt then it would just be nothing forever

Dude i had one-itis for like three years. just fuck it. i turned it around and now shes chasing me but thats a whole nother story and im too tired right now to tell it.
but any girl that hooks up with three guys in one night, fucked up or not, isnt worth the trouble, at least not if you want a relationship.
just forget it man. maybe when she grows up you two will hit it off but until then, just dont sweat it. she probably really deserved you lambasting her and maybe she learn a lesson(dont be a filthy whore)
whatever you do, dont make excuses for her. trust ur instincts. dont act mad at her or anything, say hi if u make eye contact but other than that make no effort to talk to her. she doesnt deserve ur company. she blew it. you let her back into ur life and she fuckin blew it. if u give her another chance then shell just fuck up again, dont invest ur emotions in her.find someone else. please, id hate to see anybody make my mistakes

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Ok dude you got played, or just lost your chance of fucking her that night. One step forward two back is a rule for you if you're gaming her, if she's gaming you go for it, when she escalates you push it a step forward till the to of you are about to fuck, then hesitate pull the whole is this a good idea bull shit and fuck her.

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If you like this girl after all this shit, why didn't you make out with her at the party? As soon as she grabs your ass thats a tell tail sign that she wants you. Fuck it, you should have gone for it, that girl doesn't NEED only you to make out with, she wanted you....you declined her after you gamed her the whole night, and when the time came for you to K-close her, you failed and she went to someone who would make out with her. Honestly...don't waste your time on this girl shes not worth it especially if shes getting drunk and making out with hella dudes at a party LDV for her, why would you want a girl like that?

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your right, i dont wanna make the same mistakes people have made previously, fuck that hoe, and as for the making out? i would have but when she grabbed my ass she was near alot of people, i was thinking of leaving for like a litttleeee bit, coming back and isolating, but next thing ya know, people are telling me shes making out with someone, and then another, and then, another haha, but i wouldnt have even wanted to touch her that night i dont want sloppy FOURTHS! im just gonna forget about this hoe, i wont even say hi when i see her fuck that shit, mayybee if she wants she can recover but i realize i dont have to "learn" how to recover the situation, she can come to me evantually and she better be apologizing hard if she even wants to talk to me again