Quote:
The I/You switch:
I can imagine a time when I FEEL TOTALLY FASCINATED with someone... ME, I think when you LET THOSE THOUGHTS RUN THROUGH YOUR MIND and find yourself thinking about this person in a new way...
This allows you to talk about yourself and so the person will not consciously criticize, then you smoothly switch it for "you".
Here are some more I/You switch statements I learned, follow these with embedded commands. Well, actually, these don't do the complete switch it only describes the "I" part. But, by essence, she'll have to process the embedded command in order to understand what you're saying.
"I find that when I...BECOME VERY FASCINATED WITH SOMEONE.."
"As I...RECOGNIZE THAT'S HAPPENING"
"I begin to..IMAGINE A TIME IN THE FUTURE, STILL FEELING FASCINATED WITH SOMEONE.."
(An excerpt from the Gemini Pattern where you are asking yourself a question, but, in effect, she has to ask herself the question too in order to make sense of what you're saying)
"It's about asking myself, two very important questions...what is it about certain people that makes us..FEEL THAT WAY about them...to HEAR THIS VOICE..to SEE THIS FACE..and no matter how hard we try to fight it...it's like it TAKES ON A LIFE OF ITS OWN...compelling..vivid..REAL...."
(Google the Gemini Pattern to get the 2nd question).