Ok so here the situation, I got out of a 5 year relationship a few months ago and my game has been a little off. I have no problem getting numbers and such my problem comes after a few dates. I have a hard time with the build up to blow off to make them want you more and I probably come off as too available.

But I hung out with this girl a couple times and we had a great time the first time and the second time its was going good until some of my afc friends showed up and wanted to go bowling and I didn't want to go because me 2 afcs and 1 girl did not sound like where I wanted the night to go. But one of my friends I hadn't seen in awhile pulled the I haven't seen you in forever man on me and I gave in.

So we are bowling and I hate bowling and I had a bad time, but she said she had a good time and I told her I didn't. Then a couple days later I tried to get ahold of her to hang out but she said she had to study. So I was like okay lets chill some other time and she said it sounded good. Then I talked to her the next day and she told me something about how I didn't have fun or something can't really remember "I know that a big part of being a pua, I'm working on it."

So then the other day I was talking to her and she said that she thinks I only want sex from her which I do but I showed no signs. I mean she added me on myspace and said we should hang out the next day and came over and started flirting with me and we made out. The next night we hung out and made out as well then my afc friends wanted to go bowling. But I told her we should go for a walk and talk for 15 minutes and she said she had a lot of homework which she always says and I know its true because she does homework and sits on myspace all day.

But I said she cant have that much homework that its only 15 minutes and she said if I can't understand its my problem and I told her "Dude its 15 minutes but whatever I'm over it." and didn't talk to her since. which is one day so far. haha
But I was wondering how I fix this or if I even should try. I mean I feel like I lost and I do want to just hook up with her and call it good. The main problem with my game right now is when I don't get my way I am a huge dickhead to the girls.

Pretty much I want to fix the damage i have done and F-close. Thanks for any advice.

time will solve your problem.

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Man, if you really try, if there is at least one person enjoying some activity, you can get on board with that and have fun with it to. Don't be a stick in the mud, think about who you're with, not what you're doing. You can have fun. She was having fun - you could have used that.

Not only that but you actually TOLD her you didn't have fun - why did you do that?

After that she probably started second guessing things and looking for reasons to not see you - and while the mistake you made is probably not an instant fail, it may have snowballed. You mentioned something about her saying you didn't have fun. I'm suspicious the bowling night made her second guess her opinion of you and then she just started to find excuses - such as you only want sex.

Instead of rolling with it and making the best of a situation (which can often produce unexpected fun times) you went in with the mindset for total failure, by being convinced that there's no way that night out could possibly be fun.

Worst case, even if you're not having a hugely great time but she can see you're making the effort, she'll respect that, and she'll want to do something else that you enjoy more later.

Hi, in response to your PM, my gut feeling is she needs to be coaxed back - show her you are a fun person, and that bowling thing was a one time thing. You need to get her back into the comfort zone. But like anything, you can't force it. Maybe it will take time, maybe it won't happen.

But I think ultimately if you really only want to have sex with her, that's the vibe you will give off and she will know.

But I know it's easy for guys to think they just want to have sex with a girl they're fortunate enough to have following them around, and not appreciate that they actually might like her.

If you are that concerned about her coming back to post about it here and really want an answer, my feeling is you actually are attracted enough to her to really like her, you're just not noticing what you've got, and you'll regret it later when she's gone.